There's this guy i know since 2 years . I already told him that i love him, he said that he lik'd me very much but that he was too busy, that he would not be able to cope. At that time i was havin' doubts and i told him that it would be better if we remained friends and that's what we did. Then much later i saw him hand in hand with someone else. I told him that if he considered me a friend he should have told me. To show him that there was no problem i told him that i don't love him. But that was not true i just said this to protect myself. We already had a problem almost similar before and it made me sick . Then he explained that it wasn't what i thought and she's just a friend who came to visit our country. But i can't believe this even though i faked i did. Who goes around holding hands with "friends" of the opposite sex. People tell me that he loves me but i can't believe them, even though he's given some signals like buying me a small gift on Valentine Day. What should i do?
2007-03-14 18:29:37 · 9 answers · asked by Selena C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ponder on this.. Would you rather try and fail, or regret?
Good Luck with the guy!!
2007-03-14 18:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your heart is involved it's hard to let go of relationships. Love is a strong word, so don't throw it around loosely. You should move on. It's hard...I know. There are men that I still pine for years later. The heart is fragile....use your mind to protect it. If he was really into you, he'd be with you. There'd be no question what so ever. He knows how you feel. He probably doesn't feel the same way. If he did, he'd be hand in hand with you.
2007-03-14 18:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by dutchess81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new man! He's definately not interested in anything more than friends or maybe sex. If you wanted to be with you he would be. The small gift and the "I like u but couldn't cope" crap is just hey I wanna have sex but not be tied down. Move on..hes not worth it! Why would u LOVE him anyway!
2007-03-14 18:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding hands while walking is not something you do with a friend of the opposite sex if you are simply friends with them and nothing more is going on...it sounds like he likes this other girl and he is trying to protect your feelings by not admitting it to you because you are friends and he does not wish to hurt your feelings...if he is interested in you for more then friends, he will end up coming and telling you so but for now, I would move on if I were you....best wishes to you
2007-03-14 18:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, you must admit that you are weak when you are weak. because that is the only time that you will be able to work on yourself to becoming strong. cause you see on your own experience what happens when you try to fool yourself, and the others that you are with. the love suffers and no one wins.
i say that you must just confront your fears. maybe even apologize to him and say that you lied. because you are a lot weaker than how you portrayed yourself to be. but unless you admit that, then you will always keep on firing loose canons. maybe afterwards, you can work on your perfect shot.
he must be confused as well. think about it. but i say, after you confess your real true feelings to him, don't stop there. work on it. on yourself. being honest and true to yourself.
you have a lot of work to do.
sorry to be so blunt.
2007-03-14 18:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by kuklaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is holding hands with some other girl that he claims to be just his friend...then maybe you should hold hands with another guy that is "just a friend"
2007-03-14 18:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by MomOf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut feeling. Talk to him and ask him to be honest about you. If you feel he's not being up front, then move on and let him go.
2007-03-14 18:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would move on. he sound like he has things going on in his
'life that he to busy as he stated for a reatlionship.. find someone that not to busy for you.
2007-03-14 18:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait around for anyone...
2007-03-14 18:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋