My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. We don't live together and never have. We do spend a lot of time together, just about everyday. I still really love him, but I wonder if things just naturally start to go downhill? When we first got together we were intimate almost everyday and now it's maybe a couple times a week. And he has never told me he loves me first unless there was something totally severe going on in my life. Lately I haven't been saying I love you at all to see if he would and he hasn't. Is it normal for things to slow down like this or should I be worried? And is there any suggestions to spice things up? How do I know if he's losing interest? He still calls me everyday at least a couple times.
2007-03-14 18:22:24 · 6 answers · asked by juniper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im kinda in the same bind except we live common law.You're lucky you live apart because people need thier space every now and then.You have to liven it up or spice it up with something spontaneous.When he least expects it,thats when you're going to blow his mind.In a good way that is.Keep saying I love you and he will say it back.
2007-03-14 18:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by randelicious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married then it is totally different. When you are married and have kids you are pretty much in it for the long haul. There are peaks and valleys. It only gets dull for me when my wife rations the sex - then other women start to look very inviting. But guys are not very big on the "I love you" stuff. We will say it but it feels a little mushy. I wouldn't worry about anything. If he calls you a couple of times a day then I would say he feels close to you and finds you interesting enough to talk to.
2007-03-14 18:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by rmalko 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years is not that terribly long for it to go that sour. Its a long time trust me, but there should be more spice. You two need to have a serious talk. You need to do what you are doing and not tell him you love him so often without a return I love you. Especially if you dont live together yet, you need to talk about trying to pull this relationship together again. It sounds like you are in a rut with this relationship and you need to talk about your future in it.
2007-03-14 18:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try renting a hotel room get a sexy outfit try fredrericks or something like that. have him meet you there. you can have inscents candles etc. maybe a jacuzzi in the room can help. just try it. my girlfriend does it for me and it turns me on so much. maybe have a threesome thats also lots of fun. maybe the last thing i said you might not be into but anything is worth a try since it seems that you care about your boyfriend alot.
2007-03-14 18:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by gansito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships do not paintings. every physique who believes that a individual is purely sitting around waiting for months to work out somebody for an afternoon or 2 is placing themselves up for a super unhappiness.
2016-12-18 14:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by donenfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only gets boring, if they stop doing the things
they did in the beginning.
2007-03-14 18:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋