I like this guy... he is my bf best friend, my bf and i are having lots of problems.. we are completely opposite people and his best friends and i are so compatable.. i am falling for him i knwo it is not right.. but, what can i do... i care for my bf so much but not like a gf but as a friend and i am really falling for my bf's friend... i will take any suggestions... i don't want to loose both of them.... Should i just continue like this or. shoudl i have a talk with on of them....? Will it work? Will i loose them?
2007-03-14 18:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll answer this question from the bf's perspective...it sucks. About 2 years ago my wife decided that she wasn't happy with her life with me. I agreed to give her some space. I was bummed out, so I went to talk to my friend and I found her car in his drive way. I was somehow able to forgive her, but if I ever see the guy in the street I couldn't tell you what I would do. It left scars on me that i can't recover from, I always thought of myself as a romantic type of guy, since then, I've never been close to another women in the way I would need to be for a serious relationship. If you decide that this guy is the guy you wanna be with, don't expect them to remain friends, and pray that you don't leave any lasting scars like I recieved...
2007-03-14 18:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by robert g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tricky question at best! My best friend and I had a 'golden rule' about situations like this one. If either of us dated someone and broke up with them, the other would not date that person. This rule worked very well for the both of us as it helped us avoid the situation you are asking about. Dating someone's ex could cause friendship problems and hurt feelings. I think you really need to examine, then re-examine your motives and your feelings in this situation. Then ask yourself how would you feel if this was reversed. Say you were dating a guy and were having problems, but one of your girls wanted to date him. How would you feel, react? There is bound to be a lot of negatives if you should decide to travel that path, are you ready to deal with them?
2007-03-14 18:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by James H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would leave the best friend alone. if u have a relationship with the best friend then the boyfriend will feel betrayed by both of u. not only does he lose his girlfriend but also his best friend (and i can almost guarantee that friendship won't survive and if it does then they both will not like u.) however if u decide to act on this..... don't open one door before the other is closed completely. no looking back CLOSED.
2007-03-14 18:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some lines u do not cross , one is coming between 2 best friends. only u know what u are going to do but just knwo that u could break up their freindship. then again true love can win out over everything. its really up to u
2007-03-14 18:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have have been given a multitude to handle. in case you unload your lady pal for her pal, that's kinda incorrect and would mess issues up between you all. If it is not what's happening, then i should be fake impact. even though it style of feels to me that in case you do unlike your lady pal anymore, then you certainly ought to smash up along with her and in case you will date your/her pal i think of you ought to attend slightly in the past you go out along with her. That way it provides your lady pal time to heal and she or he may well be accepting of you and her pal courting. Your pal ought to communicate to her approximately it after slightly of time and spot how she feels approximately it. yet who's noot to declare that she would be able to no longer leave you whilst yet another guy comes alongside?
2016-11-25 21:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to love one of them as a lover and like one of them as a friend. But choice is urs.
U cannot love both of them. U should be loyal to both of them.
Being loved by someone is better than loving anyone.
2007-03-14 18:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by sneha y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant dirve 2 cars at the same time lady :)
u might b very selfish if u want the both of them
u have to choose..and dont be afraid to follow what you want just because ur afraid tht u might hurt the other one
life is unfair..thats the fact! so do wat ur suppose to do
:)
2007-03-14 18:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bros before hos. He won't let him do something like that. He won't let you get away with it. I would advise against any such move.
2007-03-14 18:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
options??
a) leave bf
b) leave bf and try his best friend
c) stay will bf
....er....one of those options has the potential to ruin two relationships....>.<
2007-03-14 18:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by OrangeBunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you talk it over w/ your parents
2007-03-14 18:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by lauren s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋