I am so deeply in love with this guy (Daniel Nakahira), he never wants to spend his weekends with me. The only time he wants to see me are the week days from Monday - Friday and he is the one who deceides which day of the week and the time. If I tell him I won't be able to make it, he gets really mad and hurts me by saying all sorts of nasty things. I really get emotionally and mentally hurt. Help me to understand why and should I do?????
2007-03-14 18:12:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may have a wife or girlfriend he only see's on the weekends, maybe he has a kid that he takes care of then, or it could be like a guy I used to date that did drugs every weekend when he got paid on Friday.
If he doesn't hang with you on the weekend then pay him back. (You know pay-back is a b*tch) "Well Daniel, I'm sorry but I thought that you would be unavailable again so I made plans with my guy friend to go _________!"
2007-03-14 18:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem like a harsh statement, but your love is merely blind love, not true love. This sort of thing is very common. Let me ask you, do you listen to country music. Well, I want you to listen to a song. It's Keith Urban's "Stupid Boy." This song explains your exact situation with 100% accuracy. Listen to it very carefully and take the words to heart. It basically sings about a guy who controlled every aspect of his girlfriend's life and paid the price for it. In the end, he lost her love. After you listen to that song, I want you to break up with him. However, I want you to bring many friends. Especially brothers, your father, and any other male family members or friends you have. They will make sure you will not be harmed. This also discourages him from harming you. I will warn you right now, it's possible that he will try to attack you physically. That's why I want you to bring back-up when you break up. Also, get a restraining order. What he's doing to you is illegal. It's called assault. You can say that you feel that your life is threatened. Also, in most cases, verbal abuse eventually escalates to physical abuse. I know you think you're in love, but he isn't worth it. There are plenty of fish in the sea. There's a bunch of guys out there that have more class than him. I beg of you, take my advice before it's too late. I've seen what happens when no action is taken. It isn't pretty. Remember, there are people that care about you. I know we don't know each other, but even I care about you. You're just an innocent bystander who could potentially be harmed by an idiot. That's why I care about you. I will pray for you.
2007-03-15 01:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by bond_fan_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its bcuz he busts he works hard all week and that the weekend is the only time he can go out and release his stress. As long as hes with you every day of the week I dont see why it would be a problem if he goes out with his homies on the weekends, every man needs time away from the world.
2007-03-15 01:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by dnakahira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't like to make themselves available very easily because it makes girls more attracted to them. We like to make ourselves appear to have a very busy life. I have a job that I work at on the weekends, but I'm free almost every weekday evening. Personally, I would rather go on a date on a weeknight than on the weekend. Crowds are much lighter during the week.
2007-03-15 01:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in controle of you...not of him. Tell him what YOU want, and what is acceptable to YOU. He may not like it at first...but if he really cares for you...he will adjust. Also..have you considered that he may be seeing someone else on the weekends? Sounds like he has a sweet deal going on...you decide what YOU want. It will all fall into place.
2007-03-15 01:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl love hurts and if you love him let him go you don't need a man in your life that's going to hurt you in any kind of way he gets mad because you don't have time for him but he don't want to spend weekends with you let it go i don't know your situation only what you mentioned but sounds like he has another life one you know nothing about don't worry yourself trying to find out just leave him you don't need to hurt over no man there's too many other men out here and if you really love him you can leave him good luck and take care
2007-03-15 01:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by laverne j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but i think u should start playing hard ball. pick the time u wnana hang out - if he cant make it oh well, go w/out seeing him. u got to train him ( like a puppy ) u just cant let him walk all over u like this. and when he says the mean things just hang up on him b4 u listne to it all, and avoid his calls for a while. teach him a lesson.
2007-03-15 01:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married men are not available on the weekend.
2007-03-15 01:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out now while you can...this guys a crappy boyfriend-to-be and probably a worse boyfriend. Fine someone who wants to be with you anytime...thats the key.
2007-03-15 01:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Beachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because that is the time he spends with his wife. you should dump him if he is saying nasty things he doesn't care about you.
2007-03-15 01:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋