my bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago (was together for 1.5 years) coz he said that he has lost the love feelings and that he has no motivation to go on.
he has never been with a girl for so long. he has some relationships before, but i was the first girl whom he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. he was very happy with me, he even has the greatest sex with me, i was perfect for him, he said.
few days before he broke up with me, he was confused, but he said that he's gonna regret so much if he breaks up, coz he knows that he can't find any girls who is so nice and who loves him so much.
but he still broke up with me finally. what are guys thinking? so he can just break this relationship up even he knew that we were a perfect couple? how can a guy get over these happy moments and me if i'm so perfect for him? will he miss me and regret??????????
2007-03-14 18:04:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you were not a perfect couple.
2007-03-14 18:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what can i tell u?
love is blinding. just because he was with u for so long, was happy with u, had the greatest sex with u and whatever, that doesn't mean u guys were a perfect couple. no one's perfect, but i bet he will regret what he did. he seems to really love u. even if u guys were a perfect couple, maybe he thought u were going to break up with him first. it's quite possible. some people say that girls get tired of their guys faster than guys get tired of their girls, but i don't believe that all. complete BULLSHIT. anyway, if he heard that from someone, he probably took it seriously, and became confused and everything. give him some time. see if he comes back to u or not. continue being his friend and everything, though. completely avoiding him will do u no good if u believe he's going to regret. making him jealous will just hurt him and u both. got it? so give his some time, and soon, u may find a guy urself who u'll like very much.
2007-03-22 22:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by jeannie k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't close his eyes, like before when he kissed your lips.
And there's no tenderness like before in his fingertips.
He tryied so hard not to show it,... baby, cuz baby you know it...
He's lost that lovin' feelin' wohoh, that lovin' feelin, now it's gone, gone, gone wohohohoooo.
Guys do things like this when they either think that you are too good for them (stupid, but I've done it). Or, that eventhough right now in ya'lls life this 1,5yr relationship seems long, and very commited (and I'm positive it was) but in his mind, he might have wanted to be 100% sure that it is you that he wants to spend his life with.
Think of it this way, if there isn't any other "good" relationships that either one of you has had, how do you know that the two of you had the best relationship.
Hopefully this guy was influenced by some dumbass single friends (the one's that are jealous that they don't get laid) and will see the light soon. He said he know's he is making a mistake... give him the room to fall on his face. Don't ask him any of the questions I just told you. Leave the guy alone, get your butt to the gym and buy some new clothes and make him miss you even more. Put your self in the top ten% of great woman to date, that way he'll find the motivation to come back to you, but hopefully the reason he left you is, sothat you can better yourself, and find a guy twice as hot, 10x better in bed, and loves you more than he loves life itself.
Keep your chin up, you are more attractive that way! And before you know it you'll have a guy singing; Baby, baby, I'de get down on my knees for you,....
2007-03-23 00:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Winchester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem so hard right now, but in retrospect you learn so much from every relationship that you have.
He may just have lost attraction for you or wanted to see what else was out there. You guys will undoubtedly get back together for a couple of romps in the hay, but keep the ball in your court and act as if you are really okay and are moving on.
If you act pathetic then he may feel sorry for you but he will not respect you.
The attraction will not manifest itself again.
However, if you act as if you are moving on and are dating other people, he will be totally thrown for a loop and wonder why he ever gave up such a great girl, and that HE is missing out.
I guarantee that if he sees you on a date with someone else he will be beside himself. And don't think that it is "too soon" and you will hurt his feelings...he broke it off with YOU.
Even if you don't find romance again right away, dating will boost your ego for sure.
Keep it light, and leave the ex-boyfriend baggage at home. No one wants to be the rebound.
Weepy dates suck.
Good luck, you'll get through it.
2007-03-15 01:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by C M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big step to break up with someone. On the one hand, it is nice that he had so many good things to say about you when he broke up with you. On the other hand, this may be what he does when he breaks up with someone so that he can try to get back with them quickly if he wants.
I'd file away all the good things he said and tell yourself it is really over. Don't even try to guess what his motive might be - but I wouldn't be surprised if it wasn't another person he wishes to date now.
If it doesn't work out with them, would you take him back? Ask yourself that question because he might come around again, hoping to get back with you if that didn't work out.
If I were you, I'd start dating someone else right away just to get back into the dating scene again. It might hurt for awhile but you are sure to meet someone nice soon.
No relationship is so perfect if you are willing to break up with the person.
2007-03-22 23:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys are very confusing, just as girls are. but you guys have been together a long time, and you said that he hasn't been with a girl that long. he may just be going through stuff and is confused and scared about the future. so he might come back around. just keep it together. don't shut him out and give him the cold shoulder, just try to be understanding. and if he comes back around he'll appreciate you for it, and in the long run it will make you're relationship so much stronger. if he doesn't come back and this is for real then i really am sorry. that sucks and it is hard but things happen for a reason. just remember that and stay strong. good luck girl!
2007-03-22 21:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know really what to tell you. You painted a perfect picture...but why the breakup??? Did he need space..or what??? I don't need to know, just asking you...
I also know that he has emotional issues he might thing this is way way too good and he better break it up before it breaks on its own and his heart will be broken for a long time. I would do the following...
I will never call, email, I'm him or anything, I will not avoid him, I will talk to him as loving as I always has as this issue has nothing to do with me...its all on him...and his choice. I will get another friend, boyfriend or otherwise and, not just pretend
2007-03-22 13:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. At least he was honest enough to tell you he was not interested in pursuing your relationship any longer. You HAVE to respect that!!! It does not mean try to go out and immediately try to find someone else to replace him. You need to focus on yourself and love yourself. I know it hurts, but this is the only way. It is a part of growing up and what seems perfect now, may possibly seem stupid to you in a couple of months. Please believe me!!!
2007-03-15 01:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been telling you those things because he thought that it wouldn't hurt your feelings as much when he broke up with you. People can and do fall out of love but still care for the person.
2007-03-15 01:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we sabatoge our own relationships on purpose...at least subconciously...anything that's too good is bound to end in our minds, and so why prevent the inevitable? it's something all of us guys have to get over eventually, but until then, we just have to hope that the perfect girl can forgive us when we break their heart. as for me, i don't expect that. if i'm an asshole, then i should be treated like one.
2007-03-15 01:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, but for now the best to thing for him to wake up is to agree to it..say if that is what you want that;s what you will have and then cut him off......this should make him go crazy if he really loves you and misses you...in the meanwhile take advantage of doing things you didt have time to do...do things to better yourself but for yourself not for him...Be happy God has it planned for you and just put everything in his hands
2007-03-15 01:11:34 · answer #11 · answered by amor_dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋