i trust her more than anyone and she goes and takes advantage of it today. she wanted to borrow my credit card to make a 15 dollar purchase and ended up spending around 200....yeah she's sorry but still i will have trouble trusting her now, and we only recently got back together. i was shocked. i'm just upset that she'd risk ruining us. she was a little upset when i told her that i just went ahead and canceled her orders. ppl mess up i know...and i doubt i'll break up with her over this, but now i don't trust her as much as i did before obviously. i should be really upset with her right? i didn't even yell at her when i found out..just was like, "want to explain this?"...and she told the truth, but i don't know what things will be like until she regains my trust.
2007-03-14 18:01:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, if you "just got back together" and you're already having problems, that's not a good sign. It's rare for a couple to break up and get back together and have it work out, and if you're already having issues you may be doomed already.
Secondly, a financial issue like this was very silly and irresponsible of her, but it's not the kind of betrayal you never trust her again over. If she kissed another guy you'd have reason to have major trust issues. This is just an issue of her being immature and kind of childish. One of the best ways I know of to cure adults of childishness is by treating them like children when they act like children. People like being treated with respect. If she behaves immaturely, treat her accordingly, and she will dislike the feeling and hopefully think better of it next time.
2007-03-14 18:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell i would be mad if i were you 15 dollars is alot different from 200 dollars you were right to cancel the orders i would have to and as for trust well you should keep your guard up a while i mean she did come clean she could have lied and said she doesnt know what your talking about and said she only spent the 15 and the other stuff was a mistake
2007-03-14 18:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by ~Lisa~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up dude. She obviously spent too much, but why are you letting her borrow your cc? I would not let ANYONE borrow my cc. Even my family...especially not my family, let alone a friend, girl or otherwise. Keep the card to yourself. It happens. Does she have a history of being a shopaholic? Spending money like crazy? Keep the card away from her.
But, not telling you about a purchase like that is not nice, but to not trust her EVER again?? That's a bit over the top, I think.
2007-03-14 18:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by tklines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust in a relationship is a VERY BIG thing. in any relationship, bf/gf, child and parent..... when you lose that trust, its a very hard thing to earn back. it takes time. i lost the trust of my dad by lying to him and it took a very long time to earn it back. just dont let her borrow your credit card. good luck.
2007-03-14 18:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont trust her she knew what she was doing she lied. watch 4 things 2 go missing round your house
2007-03-14 18:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can it be a accident to spend 200$
the way your saying it doesn't sound like shes a drew friend
2007-03-14 18:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by katie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be upset with her as well. you dont disrespect the
person that you with. but it will take time for her to regain'
the trust, but you know that if you cant trust her then you will
not have much of a relationship
2007-03-14 18:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sky is not falling..
Get over it..
Forgive her already..
2007-03-14 18:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋