So, I'm a little behind in life, but whatever. I work at a restaurant as a server, so any servers, current or ex know what the situation can be like. I have a gf, she is great; fun, intelligent, responsible, and beautiful. But now there's this new girl at work that I can't get out of my head. She, too, is fun, great personality, smart (done w/ college recently), super cute, and very flirty w/ me. I tried to put her off already w/ the talk in front of her about how great my gf is and how much I love her, but she called it and I swear is more flirty now. I know what I want, my gf now, but this other girl keeps coming up in my mind. How do I quit thinking about her? I am good about resisting temptations unless they are constant temptations, then things go a little sour. I am still very human.
2007-03-14 17:59:15 · 15 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uuhhhggg
what an awful situation.
With experience I can say the only way is to never talk to the new girl, never entertain her talking and never flirt back. Try to get shifts when she isn't working and push the thoughts out of your mind with anything else.... Maybe thoughts of your g/f flirting with a hot guy at her work might do the trick.
Good luck, temptations like those are really the pits. I commend you for knowing what is right and trying to right it.
2007-03-14 18:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mlle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey seems u like the attention cause a man who really didn't want it would have told her to back the f.*.c.k off, as well as repeat &repeat the girlfriend story.
Ur sutleness is egging this coworker on: u need to shove her away not pat her shoulder.
If u want to put an end to the temptations, tell ur girlfriend about the situation, &get her to come to ur work. I think the visual sometimes works for some women to get the picture.
now...if u hesitating telling ur gf-u have a problem
2007-03-14 18:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know...lol...many are going to think this response is crazy but hey...here me out. In the old days like back in the forties or fifties or even in the sixties guys and girls went out with alot of different dates .....there really wasn't any of this exclusiveness from the get go like we see today. So here is my suggestion....you aren't married to anyone and since dating is all about collecting info about different people so that one day you can make an intelligent choice for a spouse then why not go out a few times with the girl at work if you are curious. Now is the time to do it and not when you are married. If people, when they were dating would stop this whole married thing before they are married then maybe people would meet more people...have a lot more varied experiences and when it did come time to marry people, they would make better choices. I say if you are that attracted to her and you are curious then go out with her...you aren't married. Oh by the way.....another great reason to not jump into bed so quickly since that sort of sends the message to your partner that you are only committed to her and when you do that you sort of box yourself in a corner for not justifying being able to go out with other girls. MMMM I wonder if you are in that category with your current girl friend. Good Luck!
2007-03-14 18:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. Wel.. after work wen u are in the kitchen and the Ms Flirt is with u.. Ask her abt her relationships that she had or having at the moment.. Pick up tropics abt relationships and importantly put her the magic words of u wishing to settling down with ur gf. And tell her firmly that anyone coming in between us ,will not be spared..
2007-03-14 18:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem with seeing both of them? You're single aren't you? If your current gf doesn't like it, see what she does. If she fights for you, you'll know how much she appreciates you. If you don't wnat to play the game, tell this new girl to knock it off in no uncertain terms.
2007-03-14 18:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by tklines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the new girl alone. Especially, if she already knows you have a girlfriend that you love. It should be making you question the new girl's virtues. Don't try to ball till you fall! (Plus, I have been here before and it didn't last, but it did teach me a lesson.)
2007-03-14 18:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all she only flirted with u more after u told her about ur gf because she want u. she wants u bad.you can ether dump ur gf of tell her to leave u alone or u can quit ur job. Just don't let her get in ur head to much cause u might cheat on both girls. I never had a boyfriend but i would kill him if he eva cheated on me.So please just take my advise.
2007-03-14 18:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by S_C_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your girlfriend and your relationship and remind your coworker that unwanted sexual attention is against the law. Make management aware that you are feeling uncomfortable. Unless your plan is just to boff her and then let the hurt feelings fall where they may in which case you're just looking for those of us on Yahoo to rubber stamp your baser instincts.
2007-03-14 18:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay loyal to your current girlfriend, you can't do anything with this girl.
My tip to you would try to get different work hours. If she is working the breakfast shift, try working lunch and dinner, or just dinner.
If worst comes to worst and you both have to work together, just try to avoid her. Take different routes around the restaurant if you have to. Just try to keep away.
More advice at http://www.easyteendating.com.
2007-03-14 18:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her unlessyou have to deal with her work related of course people don't like being ingored and she will get the picture and back off or you can always tell her that even though she's cute your interested and that she is basically barking up the wrong tree
2007-03-14 18:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋