Alright, here goes. I'm 26, have slept with 30 people or so all of whom I was in atleast a three month relationship with- except for two which were stupid drunken one night mistakes. I've been in three relationships lasting approximately 2 years. I'm not sure if I actually have a problem or not but I can't seem to find anybody in years who I feel is particularly right for me. I'm smart, fun, loyal, trustworthy, all that. But I generally find that I have a higher sex drive than most women and they generally bore me in the bedroom or I end up feeling that I'm doing all the work. I'm talking about most of the partners I've had in, say, the last five years. Any thoughts or anything to add? Should I just forget about finding someone to have fun with behind closed doors and just focus on the other stuff? Really starting to think I'll never find anybody who's as into creative fun sex as me, but also the other stuff that makes for a great relationship - getting on great,trust,loyalty,fun,etc!
2007-03-14 17:03:42 · 26 answers · asked by T M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and I've just made level three, wahey!
2007-03-14 17:05:15 · update #1
Ok, wait a sec. I am fully aware that a relationship is about alot more than sex, I'm not some inexperienced kid! I have have had more than one deep and meaningful relationship thank you very much! I have been in reciprocated love land people!
2007-03-14 17:16:25 · update #2
There's some really interesting stuff being said here, thanks! Gonna be tough choosing top answer!
2007-03-14 17:19:33 · update #3
And quit with the no sex before marriage preaching, yahoo! answers is not a church......
2007-03-14 17:21:07 · update #4
Honey, you can have a deep and meaningful relationship but if you are not enjoying the sex it becomes an issue.
Right now you are still young you have plenty of time and your enjoying your sexuality.
Women reach their sexual peak at an older age than men so perhaps you should try dating an older woman for a little while. As long as your honest about what you are doing and nobody gets hurt then just have fun.
One day you'll meet the right one and you'll just know. Happy hunting. xx
2007-03-15 14:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls, in general, will have a lower sex drive than guys. It's different, at least. There are girls out there that could be so into you that they seem really horny for you. Even when that's not normal for them. So yes, there could be someone out there that has as much passion for you (sexually) as you have for them. It still requires some romancing and other things that women like, though. Finding that girl is the tougher issue. Even if you do find her, there might be other things about her that you hate (dumb, messy, crappy career, combative, jealous, etc.). So, I would recommen writing out a list of your top 5 needs in a relationship. Elaborate on what each means. These are what *you* need to be happy in the relationship, what means the most to you. They could be general life things that the partner would have to understand and relate to and respect. If mutual passion and intimacy are high on the list, then you need to let girls you date know that. Some may understand and try to work though it.
2007-03-14 17:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by guitarrista_sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are out of control! Granted young guys have a high sex-drive, but really, in this day and age you really need to get it together! Sounds like you have an addiction ... Get some help and start respecting yourself and the girls that you are messing with. Surely you have more about you than the physical side. Why not let that shine for a while! You're probably a nice guy that is like a kid in a candy store since there are willing girls everywhere. Respect yourself and cool it. Really - if you don't, no one else will. Good luck!
2007-03-14 17:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm only 18, but I say enjoy what your doing- get laid and have a good time. You aren't a whore obviously, you enjoy relationships. Maybe sex isn't the most important thing in your life. You could always buy some sex toys to help you out. Isn't having a caring partner that you can settle down with more important...don't get me wrong I love sex, but in the end you do what you got to do.
Just smile. Enjoy life, and you'll find someone who fits what you want soon enouhg.
Good luck :)
2007-03-14 17:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by guywhoknowswhathesalkingabout? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depend i mean if you bring a girl and all you want to do is to just get in her pant, then you may be too focus on sex. You can find some but i think you need to let them come to you. When you are working so hard to get someone you sometime miss the important stuff. Just take your time you and stop looking soo hard you will find someone that is right for you.
2007-03-14 17:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. HAAA and his is the reason why everyone says to have sex after you get married because if you can wait, that means that you 2 love each other enough to want to wait to have sex until you get married, otherwise your relationship WONT last.
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-Ha, yeah right, sorry too late for that comment TM.
2007-03-14 17:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that being a woman, that when I get oral sex, and I aorgasm from it, it makes me nutty and I just get all over my guy. You can get lots of results from using the tongue in the right way. I am not talking about a woman faking it either. I am talking about a face splashing moment where you make her desire it so much that she takes control. Its not all about you guys, trust me, if you make her happy, she is always willing to reciprocate.
2007-03-14 17:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope this makes alittle since... if you have a special connection with someone the sex will be/get better... Worry about the relationship part first than the sex will just fall in to play, getting better and more exciting with time... From a girls perspective, it takes awhile for someone to feel comfortable enough to get creative in the bedroom... just find a girl you have thing in common with, and make sure honestly care for her, and all that mushy stuff... have fun and dont stress so much about the sex... because sex is more than an action its a connection.... Makes since?? i hope i helped alittle
2007-03-14 17:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
30 at age 26 is alot.im 35 and 6 so women view it very different its meant as a way to express our love, some men view it as a need basis, slow down...........it would be better with one you actually loved and it may even stir an emotion about that female that girls are more than just a place to put it in to
2007-03-14 17:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done for making level 3
Oh yes stop focussing on sex so much, real relationships are not just based on sex.
You never know, The problem may be with you thinking you are king in bed.
2007-03-14 17:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by barneysmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋