How should i ask or what should I do?

Question

My Nan has all-timer disease, and my mom is about 52 years old and she's been forgetting alot and get frusrated over little things and I told her if she could get check out by a doctor because got want nan has... and she think i am accusing her.
I told her I am not... i am just scared since want nan has is Gentic. Do anyone have tips or advice i do? or say to her?

Answer 1

Tell her that vitamin deficiencies can help with memories and tell her you want her to go with you to see what is best for the "2" of you to take (just as a precautionary measure.) It is never something easy to accept or admit. Failing that try 'ginkgo biloba' a herbal extract that many say does work for memory function. Not for Alzheimer's though to my knowledge. Good luck this discussion will be tough for both of you and hopefully you are being a little paranoid and it is just forgetfulness.

Answer 2

I would suspect that your mother has ALOT on her mind what with Nan etc.
Does your mother smoke? Does your mother drink. . even ocassionally?
Smoking compromises your blood flow and after years of smoking the body has decreased blood flow which deprives the brain of oxygen.
Contrary to what smokers will tell you about how smoking relieves stress,it is a depressant.
Alcohol is a depressant as well.
These factors combined with stress can cause anyone to be forgetful.
Now if your mother has high cholesterol which compromises blood supply,this could compromise her memory as well.
I am 54,an ex-drinker,presently smoking and also have cholesterol problems and within the last yr I have noticed that my memory slips once in a while and sometimes it will take a minute or two to think of things that I should readily remember.
I recognize this as a possible "symptom" but with all of the above factors mentioned plus worry about my current job longviety in question I also recognize that my plate is full and I am totally consumed with stress.
Those things I find that I am having trouble remembering are miniscule things and until I begin to realize that I am forgetting my children's birthdays,phone numbers,etc. . . I am not too worried and I suspect your mother may be thinking the same thing.
Unless things get really bad for your mother,don't let the current circumstances with your Nan cause you some undue concern.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry that your Nan has that very scary disease, alzheimer's, a form of dementia, and that you believe that your mom shows signs of it as well. It must be quite frightening for you to be seeing those signs in your mom as well. As someone else mentioned, she probably is worried that you are questioning her ability to remain independent as we all take such pride in that. However, if her behavior and other symptoms are really noticeable and troubling to you, perhaps you can even contact her family physician and he or she can perhaps ask that she come in for a "check up" ('just to make sure that everything is ok'). I believe that there are a couple tests to help diagnose that, but that it may be that the dr(s) merely rule other illnesses and diseases out such as depression or side effects to medication.

One of the tests typically includes a neuropsychological evaluation by a neuropsychologist, a Ph.d. psychologist who specializes in brain/body behavior, namely traumatic brain injury (TBI), dementia and other problems that affect brain and one's behavior and/or thinking patterns. I'm not sure if the family dr will want to get an mri (magnetic resonance imaging) of her head or not.

Please do bring it to the attention of her doctor though. Perhaps even keep a journal of things that occur such as what your mom is forgetting, how many times of day, what time of day and so forth. It can only help you if and when you talk to her dr(s). And there is a medication, while not a cure, for those in the mild (to moderate?) stages of alzheimer's, that can slow down the progression of the disease if it turns out that the person does have the beginnings (I'm just presupposing, heaven forbid) of alzheimer's called Aricept. It doesn't help everybody the same way and there can be side effects such as leg cramps and other things, but it can possibly be a helpful option.

Answer 4

just tell her your concern for her and see if you could go to the DR with her maybe that way you can voice your concerns without her getting upset .But as for talking to her it will be difficult because any thing you say may set her off just try and talk to her without making her feel like your trying to take her independences away. Good luck and stay strong