ok so i like this guy but i dont know how to get it through to him that i like him. Hes the quiet type, hes from japan acutally and hes kind of a loner. I really like him! But i dont know how to get him to talk to me and tell me what he likes and stuff! And i dont want to be the one askin all the questions in a conversation! Its like talking to a wall!
2007-03-14 16:45:45 · 11 answers · asked by filipino_chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you keep on asking him questions (not too uncomfortable ones for him) he will eventually get used to you and find it easier to open up to you. If you like him then patience will pay off in the long run. It is important not to rush things with guys that shy because it could be more of a set back than a help. It will help if you show him you are interested in him. That will make him much more likely to open up, if and only if you do it in a way that doesn't make him really uncomfortable. Think of it as if a guy was hitting on you (just for sex) and being really forward about it wouldn't you feel a little uneasy? It is like that with some guys and intamisy.
2007-03-14 16:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're gonna have to talk to a wall. There isn't really any other way to get a loner like that to open up unless you show an interest in him, and show him you really want to get to know him. After enough time, he will realize that you are geniounly interested, not just being nice, and will open up to you.
2007-03-14 23:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tha Rook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as though he's very shy.if you are involved in any kind of organazation invite him along maybe he'll give you a heads up on what he feels is important.and sometimes men just dont know that the girl likes them and you could just ask him out to lunch or coffee and chat about whatever is going on around you everyone has an opinion on everything so maybe he will share it with you
2007-03-14 23:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for help with something. Guys like to be useful.
Suggest a social outing. Loners like to be asked out.
2007-03-14 23:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Andre P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him signs or maybe tell him sumtin like this "so ive known u for a while and u seem like a really kool guy so i was wondering if maybe u wana hang out sumtime" maybe once he gets to know u more he will talk alot more just give him time so that way hes comfterble around u and dosent feel pressured....kk....
2007-03-14 23:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by SavannahLoveXoXo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he know much English?
If he's not engaging you, he either doesn't know how to respond, doesn't have those kinds of conversations in his culture or isn't interested in you. Hope you figure out which one it is soon.
2007-03-14 23:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me when i say you should start the conversation....if hes the lonely type he never gonna talk to you.......
get a friend of hes to introduce you guys.....
hope it helps
2007-03-14 23:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But a wall can't talk back...question him girl!!!!
2007-03-14 23:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by YaShen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be like "hey hmm hows it goin" & "i really like ur t-shirt" u no little things to get him more talkitive then take it 4 there
2007-03-14 23:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by ALLie_lOVEs_yoU_0702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he;s ever been to mount fuji
2007-03-14 23:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋