Has anyone ever lost memories of a dead parent? My mother died slowly over 5 years and it was very tramatic. Now when I try to think about her not that much comes to mind. It is possible for me to recall memories but not that many. She could not speak or commincate for many years and was on life support. I think my mind tried to protect itself by doing something with my memories. Has anyone ever experinced this or heard of it?
2007-03-14 16:41:49 · 7 answers · asked by mrkittypong 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That would depend on how old you where when she passed if you where a young child then it could just be you don't remember but if you where a little older like 9 or above you could have blocked it.
Try looking at photos that where taken of her and you before the illness i bet it will bring a smile to your face and just seeing the picture may bring back some good memories.
My children just lost their father they are ages 9, 11, and 13 I have planned for all different scenarios and I am finding the pictures work.
2007-03-14 16:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry for your loss it is never easy watching somebody you love die especially when it is over a prolonged period. I myself have never lost a parent, but my son died enexpectedly 5 years ago. Even now when i think of him It is hard for me to get a clear picture of his face and remember what he looked like. It is very upsetting. In times like these I will go down and visit him and sit and talk with him or I get the album out and the memories become a little clearer. Sometimes I get a whiff of a certain smell and the memories come flooding back. It is not uncommon what you are experiencing so dont be to hard on yourself, your mother is never far from you and you will never forget her.
2007-03-14 19:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is completely normal to lose some of those memories over time. one thing that i've found helped it to talk about things with my mom (my dad died), go through photo albums and go over old home videos. if ever there is a memory i feel i'm forgetting, I ask my mom about the memory and then write it down so that one day I will be able to look back on them. I hope this helps you!
2007-03-14 18:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by canadian_cowgurl04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to my sister when our Mother passed away. She had just turned 17 and was very close to our Mom. Immediately she lost most of her memories of her. I know that it was a way her mind found to protect herself. It has been 25 years now and she is thinking about getting hypnotherapy to get her memories back.
2007-03-14 16:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost my father when i was 9 and i have very few memories of him and i just recently lost my mom and that was the hardest thing that i have ever been through and it was sudden soo i couldent even prepare myself. im sorry for your loss and i have not had any problems with the memories, there are many some good and many bad... but they all are good in some kind of way... no matter how bad they was something good came from them!
2007-03-15 03:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Im always gonna be me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father died, and after a year, some of the memories went pfffft. Maybe,that is part of moving on.
2007-03-14 16:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As time goes on, I forget more about time with my mother. She died suddenly when I was 17.
2007-03-14 16:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋