what do you think about boyfriend going to Hooters?

Question

Hi. When I went restroom in my boyfriend's apartment, I saw a reciept of Hooters in trash box. I know Hooters are not there for having sexual stuff, but (according to my co-workers) the meals are not good, and the reason going there is seeing the "hot" girls, isn't it? I told him not go there long time ago, and he said "Of course not!! The foods there are terrible!!". And he went. What do you think about this? Yes, I know the family with kids going there also, but I am concerning about him going where I said I don't want him to go. Thank you.

Answer 1

Yes, the reason most men visit Hooters is to look at the waitresses. The waitresses wear low cut tops (though not much lower than many women on the street might be wearing) and short shorts. He is probably going to look at these women, but he is probably also looking at attractive women he sees in other public places.

If you are worried that your boyfriend might cheat on you in a place like this, I assure you, the only thing that a waitress there cares about is the amount of the tip left with the bill - she isn't interested in your boyfriend. Also, your boyfriend isn't looking to do anything with her - he's just looking at an attractive woman.

Consider this - if there were a restaurant in your area where attractive male waiters served you shirtless, would you and your girlfriends go? Would it mean anything significant to you?

The real issues here are that (1) you told your boyfriend not to go somewhere where there are attractive women, which shows a lack of trust on your end - ask yourself - why do you feel you need to tell him what he can and cannot do? and (2) he lied to you about it or tried to hide it from you, which shows that he doesnt think he can be honest with you. If he can't be honest about visiting a restaurant, what else might he be dishonest about?

You and your boyfriend need to work at establishing trust in your relationship - without that, you have nothing.

Answer 2

Ok here is the biggest problem in relationships jelousy you cannot tell you partner what to do and what not to do you can say something doesn't please you and communication is key. Hooters is just a bar yes with hot women...but you should be able to trust your partner enough that you know that he is going to come home to you. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is a lack of trust...because what stems from a lack of trust is arguments yelling screaming and a wall. While I think that going and doing something when it was agreed upon not to is obviously a communication and trust issue. Complaining online or asking if it is a problem is realy something you should ask yourself it is a personal question and also putting it online for everyone to see isnt realy a good idea.

Answer 3

Are you his mother, and his he 14? If not, then he can go anywhere he wants. I'll tell you this, women in a bar are dressed way more scandiously than the women at hooters. Let it go, its not a big deal. If he went to a strip club without your prior knowledge, than that's a little questionable, but even then, he's not your posession, nor are you his. Work out a mutual agreement next time.

Answer 4

I think you're in for a string of lousy relationships if you keep pretending you can order boyfriends around like that. No man would take it. Some (like your boyfriend) will say ok to avoid a fight, but you're insane if you think he'll listen to you. The second a buddy says "Hey, let's go to Hooters", which do you think he'll say - "Sure!!!"... or... "Naw, my girlfriend won't let me." Duh.

Besides, looking at Hooters girls means nothing. But if you insist on being a control freak, he'll eventually cheat on you. I'm telling you, no guy will put up with that sort of nonsense. Best you reconsider how you interact with men, quick.

Answer 5

Forget it. He's not going to get good food or sex at Hooters, so you know he went with friends or colleagues. What's he going to say - I'm pussy whipped and have to go home to mommy. Would you want to have a wimp like that for a boyfriend.

Answer 6

His choice of where he wants to go, not yours.

Yes, the only reason to go there is to oogle at the busty women.

Be careful about trying to control his behaviour - you may end up getting hurt. Its just not your place to try and control anyone other than yourself and your children (if you have some now or later).

Answer 7

Actually, their chicken wings are pretty good. However, he's a grown man and doesn't need someone telling him where he "can" and "can't" go. Besides, what difference does it make if he goes there, even if he does look....are you that insecure with yourself? Grow up....jeez...