Ladies and gents, A little help here!?

Question

I'm taking a girl to ice hockey game this weekend around 6 p.m. I am not planning to ask her out or go to prom with me (well, i dunno!) I've known her for two years , we're great friends and i just missed her and wanted to hang out with her for the first time in about a year. She said she'd love to go with me, so I guess that's good!

My questions are:
1) Is this a "date"? If it's a date, should i hold her hands?
2)Whether it's a date or not, should i just buy her dinner? If she doesn't want dinner, is it a good idea to take her to the "Cheese Cake Factory" store because she loves those?
3) I have watched hockey games rarely and I basically know nothing about it. Should I gain little ideas about this game before the game?
4)I'm little bit shy toward girls and what kind of conversations should I have while driving to the game?
5) If everything goes in a perfect way, should I ask her to prom? Well, she said she likes me...but I'm really afraid to ask her out.

Thanks ladies and gents!

Answer 1

1) If it's just you two going, then yes, it's a date. She is probably thrilled and excited about it and is all worried about what to wear, getting her hair cut, etc. You watch - when you pick her up, look at what she's wearing, how her hair is done, whether she's wearing makeup, etc. If she's doing all of that, then SHE thinks it's a date. By the way, compliment her on her hair and how she looks - it will be a great way to make her feel great and get things started off right. DO NOT forget to do this. Do it immediately, and sincerely, like "wow...you look fantastic! I lover your hair." And that's it.

2) Try holding her hands while walking thorugh the crowds as soon as you enter the arena. DO NOT wait until you're already seated, or it will be awkward for you. It will seem natural while walking, especially since there's people around, and it will make her feel like you're being protective of her (and girls like that). Then after you're seated it won't be such a big deal to reach over and take her hand in yours.

3) Don't worry about 'dinner' as some big event - ask her after the game if she'd like to go get something to eat, and if she says yes then suggest a couple places (girls won't come out and say 'Cheesecake Factory' because maybe you were thinking 'mall food court.' So suggest a couple. Who doesn't like Cheesecake Factory!? And pay for her - the whole being an ******** with money and all is just not worth it. She will likely surprise you next time and say 'I'm paying.'

4) Don't get all lovey-dovey with her on the first night. If you've never even held hands before, don't be saying 'I love you' on day one. It's a bit sketchy. If things go really well, and she's holding your hands back and really liking that, she'll probably gove other signs, like resting her head on your shoulder, or leaning against you while you're walking (which means you should put your arm around her). If that happens, then you might end up kissing her. Girls want this - don't feel like you're some predator or something, bc she wants to kiss dudes, too. If she likes you, then she will be wanting to kiss you. You'll know. Don't force it for the sake of saying you kissed her. She might even bring up the prom. If she does, she's giving you a hint that she wants you to ask her. So ask her then.

If she doesn't give you any signs and doesn't seem into you and the holding hands bit, then she probably doesn't like you in that way.

Answer 2

OHHH So sweet
Ok first things first:
It doesn't seem like a date. It is toooo sweet and great, however.
Now, the only time you should hold her hand (tonight or whenever) at this point will be only if there is a VERY opportune moment. This is what chicks want. Spontenaity. You must ask her to prom in an INDIRECT manner. Like OH **** prom is coming. Wanna go?? You have to be on the subject of it, don't pop it from no where. And ALWAYS pay for a womans meal, girlfirend, date, or none. Men who dont are repulsive. And it is not too pushy to take her to Cheesecake factory, it's VERY thoughtful as a friend or boyfriend. REMEMBER THOUGH: ONLY OPPORTUNE MOMENT.
DO NOT LET HER PAY. DO NOT HOLD THE HAND AT ALL IF THERE IS NO OPPORTUNE MOMENT. It will make you seem to clingy. Opportune moments include walking side by side, brushing of the hands. If you are desperate for hand action stay back at the 'car' while she walks to the door of the factory, then ruh up beside her, take her hand casually as if to escort her in the right direction and make your way quickly to the door. THE PERFECT opportune moment. Please tell me how it goes!!! [e-mail]

GOOD LUCK!

One more thing- I would love to go to Ice Hockey as long as I know I am getting cheesecake factory afterwards. You dont need to know much, it's self explanatory. On the way talk about the weekend and class. When you are there if you run out of things to say mention you'd like to see the hockey players fight. Women love a guy with a wild side haahhaha and be really excited everytime someone scores, to try and engage her in the game, yahoo. Or something. Well, Im a tomboy.

Answer 3

1. It sounds like a date to me; unless, this is something that you would normally do with her on an on-going basis.
You can hold her hand but watch her body language.
2. It's a nice gesture to take her to dinner; the place that she likes is always a good idea.
3. Watch some more hockey game so you know what other are saying or at least what they're talking about.
4. You can ask her what she's been doing and just catch up with old time. Ask her what she likes to do in term of school and work; maybe go ahead and ask if she's free for the prom.
5. Go ahead and ask her. You already asked her to this hockey game - what's stopping you now?

Good luck kiddo! Enjoy the game and your date.

Answer 4

1) Is this a "date"? If it's a date, should i hold her hands?
as far as if its a date your in the middle hold her hand or kiss her only if it is the right time

2)Whether it's a date or not, should i just buy her dinner? If she doesn't want dinner, is it a good idea to take her to the "Cheese Cake Factory" store because she loves those?
ask her if she would like either of them chances are if she wants to go shell tell you

3) I have watched hockey games rarely and I basically know nothing about it. Should I gain little ideas about this game before the game?
why would you take her to a game if you know nothing about them lol there are alot better things that you could be doing If you must follow through with the game I recomend doin sum readin up on it incase she has questions so you dont look like a dumb asss.

4)I'm little bit shy toward girls and what kind of conversations should I have while driving to the game?
Well that tottally depends on the mood you could talk about what has been happeining with her in the last while etc this i a crucial point if you want it to be a date because you let the girl know if you are in it for the kill or not. You can be a gentlemen open car doors etc alsp be cocky and funny at the same time but not to the point of making her feel bad as far as what to talk about if you ave set things to talk about your planning for failure the best idea is to let it flow and if it doesnt work laugh it off and say hey im really nervouse your just so beautiful sumthin cheesy like that etc.

5) If everything goes in a perfect way, should I ask her to prom? Well, she said she likes me...but I'm really afraid to ask her out. OK she said she likes you well then DUH she wants you NOW if everything goes well FOR SURE ASK HER if she does like you MAKE sure you play it cool do not be overly nice keep your cool and sense of I dont need you attitude it turns girls on an lets em know you aint growin a vagina now that being said no matter what she says to you ie. your cute or your funny reply with things like I know, never thanks and always keep the same personality all the way through do not change or she will be freaked out and think you went soft

Answer 5

Don't even think about holding her hand. Hockey is a very active game with a lot of jumping up and cheering for your team. Games usually start around 7:30 which would make for a hurry up dinner, go for the Cheese Cake Factory. On your way to the game, ask her about the players and the positions, that will take care of the conversation. If she tells you what a great time she has had, then ask her if she wants to go the prom, or movie or whatever else you do. Just remember, girls are people too. Faint heart ne'er won fair lady. Best wishes

Answer 6

1) Yes, it is a "date", but holding her hand is up to you at the time. If you're in a crowd, grab her hand to support her as you find your seats. If she doesn't let go when you're seated, keep holding it and smile at her.

2) Ask her if she would like to eat first. Do this well before the game, so you'll have plenty of time to eat. Take enough cash with you in case.

3) Not a bad idea - then you can explain some of the action to her, and be her expert. Good for the relationship, romantic or not.

4) She's a friend, isn't she? Treat her as a valued friend, and don't try to make conversation, just DRIVE THE CAR. Explain that you're conscious of the need to be alert on the road. Most people aren't, so you need to be.

5) You will know how you feel after the game, so the time to introduce other outings is on the way home. Don't even think of deciding until the game is finished. If she's enjoyed herself, she'll accept. If not, maybe it wasn't her game. Try again some other time. You have the rest of your life to choose who you want to be with.

6) RELAX! she's accepted your invitation, so don't act like a cat on a hot tin roof. Be natural.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Is this a "date"? If it's a date, should i hold her hands?

- it's only a date if you call it a date. my boyfriend and i have been together 3 months and we still haven't had a first date ;)

Whether it's a date or not, should i just buy her dinner? If she doesn't want dinner, is it a good idea to take her to the "Cheese Cake Factory" store because she loves those?

- i believe that if a man asks a woman out (whether it's to hang out or a date) he should offer to pay for a meal. if a woman asks a man out, she should likewise offer to pay for his meal. PS. isn't the cheesecake factory a restaurant?

I have watched hockey games rarely and I basically know nothing about it. Should I gain little ideas about this game before the game?

- if you ask a girl to go somewhere, have a little knowledge about where you're taking her, especially to a sporting event. either she wants to go because she wants to spend time with you, or she wants to go because she likes the sport; be on the safe side and know the basics of the game.

I'm little bit shy toward girls and what kind of conversations should I have while driving to the game?

- you haven't hung out with her in a year - i'm sure you 2 have plenty to talk about. you're her friend right? talk to her about the stuff you'd normally talk about.

If everything goes in a perfect way, should I ask her to prom? Well, she said she likes me...but I'm really afraid to ask her out.

- i believe it's safe to ask her to prom after you're "going out".. prom isn't that close anyway, is it?? May? if i remember correctly, right?

Answer 8

1) it could be a date, it could not be. thats not really important, how you play it out is. be nice, but not overly affectionate. if she seems like she WANTS you to hold her hand, try it.
2) ask her that day if she's hungry and buy food if she is. either way, i say yes to the cheesecake factory if she loves them.
3) learn a little something about the game. if she doesnt know anything about the sport, imagine her asking you what this and that means and if you say "i dont know" she'll wonder why y'all are at a hockey game in the first place.
4) ask her about the latest movies. or music. her hobbies. or yours. what events has she been up to lately.
5) i'd say a first (iffy) date isn't quite enough to ask her to prom. go on a few dates then ask her (if you're still interested and she seems interested).

Answer 9

You Dunt Know If Its A Date...but You Did Ask Her Out.. ""SO > its a Date " " > Take Her To The Cheese Cake Factory . .You Know She Loves Cheese Cake.. If She Eats The Cake >> Then Take HER To The PROM .. You Have No Idea >> What a HOCKEY Game is About " SO Go Have More .Cheese CAKE... GD Luck.

Answer 10

Ask yourself: do you intend this to be a date or just time to hang out with an old friend? Decide that first.

2. No. Go stag.
3. Reading up on hockey would help.
4. You were great friends! Just talk like nothing has changed.
5. Do you want to? If so, ask her. Don't be scared. It sounds like she thinks you're a good guy. If all else fails you can ask her as friends.