how do you get rid of a guy that just wont leaqve you alone?

Question

ok well there are thes 2 guys that like me alot and i dont kno what to say they both asked me out and one of them is my x-boiyfriends cusin and that is hard for me to say yes but he is nice and the other one is my other xs best frriend and they both are telling me to with them and i just got out of a bad relationship and i really dont want to date but then they still dont leave me alone they ask just about every day and i just cant take it well help me

Answer 1

They are both off limits. They can't even respect your X. A cousin and a friend they are not. Why are they going to respect you after they get what they want? They may be disrespecting their friend/cousin, that doesn't mean you should. Just forget about them. Yell at them if you must. Tell them to have respect.

Answer 2

Where I use to live, guys used me for sex and I let them. I put myself into a lot of very dangerous situations by being too trusting. What I had to do was go to CARVA, Center Against Rape And Demestic Violence and learn warning signals of what was a red flag (bad sign) and what was a green flag (good sign.) It helped me. And I learned to say no to mens requests to be alone with them in private. I had an ex-boyfriend who knocked on my door several times after we broke up trying to get back together or atleast stay the night because he was homeless. I had to pray to God for the strength to not feel guilthy. I think some women are too trusting of men because they think that it's unChristian like or something to not be charitable and all trust. So praying helped so I knew that I was doing the right thing. Then I started hanging out at a Young Single Adults group at the Mormon Church and it was a healthy, safe, fun enviroment for me to meet single men who didn't have tons of red flags.
Moving helped too. But your situation maybe alittle different than mine.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you don't want to be with either of them. The best thing is to be honest with both of them. Tell them that you just need to be by yourself for now. Tell them that you don't want to start a relationship or a fling. That's not what you need at this point in your life. Let them know if they really cared about you, they would respect those wishes. If all else fails, tell them you're having a period. You must have plenty of them stored up seeing as how you didn't use any in the paragraph above :)

Answer 4

You should probably stay clear of both of them!

1. They probably think you are vulnerable right now because you just got out of that relationship.

2. If they are not good friends to your x , how do you know they will be good to you?

Make it clear that you want to be left alone. And try not to pay them any attention!! walk by them if you have to. but you may have to threaten to call the cops or something if they do not get the picture... It just seems weird that both of them are trying to get to you at the same time.

Answer 5

They problems is that they for some reason think that you like them. Simply stop talking to them and or not answering phone calls is a start. Sounds like you don't want to be rude and that's good. But if this has been going on for awhile now you have to be more strict in your nooooooooooos . most guys think that girls are playing hard to get or they think that if this girl will just give em a chance that's all they need. Just tell them both that your simply not interested and you want to be single for now and date no one.

Answer 6

Well are you a guy or a girl ?
Well never mind, the first thing that you must do is to by start by simply telling them.
And I mean telling them,........try a serious tone they may have not seen before

I think you are responding to them in a nice way because you say one or both them are nice as in your friends cousin and you best friend. All their seeing is you being receptive unless you lay it on the line.
It sound like you may have. But try this,..start By saying :
ALLOW me ti MAKE myself perfectly CLEAR !
Right away the tone is changed up. THEN SAY WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY

Sometimes starting this way has a way of penetrating someones skull,........

Answer 7

tell them that they are messed up for hitting on their best friends ex... and their cousins ex..........
i mean come on bad relationship or not even you know thats wrong so there is no way to put it other than no! you were just in a relationship that went bad and i assume that you loved this guy right? or was it a short relationship? either way its wrong dont do it even if you were ready to date again!!! have some morals... and you dont want to be the girl being talked about by your ex spreading rumors... two wrongs dont make a right... if he messed up the relationship then let it be you dont need to add more wood to the fire...
good luck and i hope you find happiness:)

Answer 8

I would just get out of the cycle of these 2 guys and just start over. There are just too many attachments to both that you you need the headache involved. Be nice and just say I am not ready to date at this point and leave it at that, then move on to someone else besides the attachment of the ex. Just move on.

Answer 9

Heres what you say word for word, this will work I promise, "just for the love of God, would you please leave me the **** alone already. I mean **** man, no means no and I am saying no to you. I promise this feeling I have of not being interested in you will not change. So seriously, just shut the **** up about it."

I was actually the one that got to say this to a girl that wouldnt leave me the hell alone, it actually felt good. Being chased after that hard I mean, after I said this though, she left me alone and told everyone what they already knew, that I was an assshole.

Answer 10

Tell them you are not ready. If they keep pressuring you let them know that pressuring you does not encourage you to believe they are worth dating in the first place. If they don't get it, tell them you will not now or ever date them. Be firm say no to what is shaping up to be a couple of jerks or stalkers.