I have had a crush on this guy for 2 years now--I have been told to flirt with him(I have tried),,,, Ive been told to talk to him(I have a few times but he is always busy working when I see him). I dont want to make a fool of myself with him and dont want to ask him out so any ideas how I can get him to realize that I am interested in him without making a jackass of myself?(Im shy when it comes to telling men my feelings).......he works at a grocery store that I dont shop at toooooooo often.But he is always busy.....should I leave him a card with a coworker with a gift certificate to starbucks with a picture of me in it and telling him Im interested in him and if he available if he wants to meet me there at a certain date and time then do so?? Im not good at approaching men....I have low self esteem
2007-03-14 16:08:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
would it make me look desperate,easy or pushy to ask him for a coffe instead of giving him the starbucks card?? I have been told that men DONT like it when woman approach them and ask them out that it makes the woman look easy or desperate.Should I walk by him and hand him my cell phone number and tell him to call me?????
2007-03-14 16:22:26 · update #1
well i would not go through someone else to give him something. i would summon enoough courage. introduce yourelf be casual and ask him to lunch or something very casual.. let him know that you have noticed him and then after you introduce yourself and maybe exchange numbers or email then you can leave it up to him if he wants to get together or not. but at least you have introduced yourself and shown interest and thats more important that just lettting your feeling stay inside for two years. oh and try to find ways to work on your self esteem. dont let life pass you by again on a crush when you could be out maybe having some fun. find one of your most boldest bad girl girlfriends and get her to teach you the art of flirting. its fun believe me. peace
2007-03-14 16:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No on the Starbucks card...kinda weird. Since he works at a grocery, ask him to find something and just talking it up. The thing is he might have a g-friend (or boyfriend if he is good looking) or might not be looking or he could be shy like you and may have noticed you...the possibilites are endless. But you are never gonna know if you don't try...just do it and live and learn. And remember, in this day and age, it's ok for girls to ask out guys...prefectly not weird anymore. Good luck.
2007-03-14 23:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Beachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to force yourself on this guy. You can not make somoene feel the same way about you as you do for them. You have a crush on him...fine. That's it. Leaving a card with a co worker and a gift is only going to get him laughed at and HE will be made a fool of. My advice is to just be friendly but not pushy...BACK OFF
2007-03-14 23:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should just be yourself. be casual & ask him to go on a friendly type of date to the movies not a fancy restaurant but a restaurant or something like that. its not like it would hurt either of you any to go on a date but like a friendship date. he might think that you are into him that way. also if he has a screenname online try to kinda flirt with him or do something like give him a smile when you walk by him & say hey lovely or something like that. then he would def. know you are into him.
2007-03-14 23:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by iLOVEyouoxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could get him when he is not working and ask him if he wants to go to dinner and a movie or somthing along them lines
2007-03-14 23:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by chevy man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋