Have been seeing this guy for a while now. How do you be a 'stepmom'? Without ruining the kid or stepping on toes? I think this guy is the one and I really need some advice on how to make it work with his kid. The kid will be there half the time. I really want to do a good job. Are there any good websites and this stuff?
2007-03-14 16:07:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First of all I wouldnt put yourself in the position of "step-mom" just yet. You never know what the future holds. I think u just need to take it one day at the time and be a good role model for his child. Spend a lot of time with the baby and show that you are intrested in getting to know him. But you really dont want to get too attached just incase if your relationship with your boyfriend goes south. One day at a time.........good luck
2007-03-14 16:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any web sites, but I have a three year old son. That age is very challenging because they have minds of their own. My son has a great imagination and he already tests me and my husband. The best advice I can give you is be consistent. Let him know your in charge, but don't try to control him, instead guide him. Be patient, if you feel like your gonna lose it take a break then go back. Have fun with it, take him for walks or to the park. Three year olds don't ask for much maybe he'd like looking for bugs or watching birds. Good luck.
2007-03-14 23:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by jeni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,my sis is two this year but she can already ask questions like Can we go to the park? What is this? So been a stepmom isn't that easy nor difficult.Just relax your mind,don't tell the child that you are not his real mother.Just act like one.If the child knew that you were not his real mom ask where his real mom is,just tell the truth to him/her.For example,his real mom died and his father married you so just tell him the truth and if the child get upset,offer yourself to the child and confront him/her that you promised to take good care of him/her and as always,this is what all,moms want no matter dead or alive,married are divorce.
2007-03-15 00:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by hello kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do not come with manuals, and every three year old is a different story. Follow your boyfriends lead. When in doubt ask him what he prefers you do in regard to his son. Let it be him who sets the rules and you follow the rules, three can be a handful, or three can be very needy. Give the little guy a chance to come to you. Just be there for him. Consistency is the key no matter what , you and your boyfriend having agreement on what is expected and how it will be handled will save you great headaches later.
2007-03-14 23:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 year olds are inquisitive. They absorb more than you realize. Before moving in keep in mind that the child will grow on you as you grow on the child. It may be easy for you to walk away some day. however, a child that small may become attached. I've been through this and just make sure that you are prepared to be a "mom" in all aspects of your life.
2007-03-14 23:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by coxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend are not being very responsible. Living together like you are a family when you really aren't is not cool. It does not set a good example for a child. Children need stability and if you are going to live with this man then you should be his wife and make a true committment to him and his son. People going in and out of relationships and having live in boyfriends/girlfriends while raising a child is just asking for a messed up kid.
2007-03-14 23:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you be a stepmom by marrying his dad.
Do not move into their home if you are not married. What on earth are you guys thinking?
You are much more likely to split up, and this will crush this little child. If he's the one, get married.
I don't know why a man would let a woman move into his house when he has a 3 year old and she doesn't know a thing about 3 year olds. Oh... wait... yes, i do.
2007-03-14 23:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋
try maybe be his friend first get to know the child and then when the time is right then tell the boy when you decide to get married then tell him about the step mother side of things
2007-03-14 23:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋