I'm the father and the mother and I have been sharing custody of our very happy daughter since she was 5 or 6 months old. She is always happy during the day and never had a problem going to sleep after I put her down at night. She seems to have taken on an extremely spoiled attitude and wont go to sleep easily any longer. I don't like her to have to cry herself to sleep, but I feel like I have to let her know that she's not the boss and can't get what she wants by simply crying. PLEASE HELP ME! She's doing this in the middle of the night as well.
2007-03-14 16:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by nimzaj1969 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If you are doing what you've always done with your daughter and you're having problems all of a sudden, I would question what the mother is doing. I'm not saying that she's doing anything BAD but I bet she's doing something different than you do. Here are a few suggestions I have:
1. Mom may be using her crib/bed as punishment currently (or recently). If she is whining and crying, mom may be just sticking her in her bed. When she is at your house and it is bed time- she's confused. She thinks she's being punished.
2. She may be getting too much sleep during the day that you aren't aware of and isn't tired enough to go to bed when you lay her down.
3. Mom may be rocking her to sleep and tending to her when she wakes up at night. Kids that age need to fall asleep on their own and go back to sleep if they wake up on their own.
The problem may not be mom at all. If she is used to sleeping in a room at your house then familiarity isn't the problem and you can rule that out. Your daughter may just be going through changes and isn't ready for bed when you put her down. In that case; here's what I suggest:
1. Make sure she gets some good physical exercise after dinner. Wrestle with her, let her run around the house, play games with her. Wear her out!
2. After play time, give her a bath. This will relax her and when her warmed up body starts to cool down, she'll start feeling sleepy.
3. Offer her a small bed time snack or Pediasure.
4. Tuck her into bed and use a mobil or stuffed animal that plays lullabys. The lullaby should distract her enough until she falls asleep.
Just imagine you trying to go to bed when you aren't tired and are not happy- that's what its like for a child that age to be put in bed too early.
Good luck- I hope you get to the root of the problem soon!
2007-03-14 17:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Erin H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 month old and a 2 year old. My youngest has started screaming her head off when she wants to sleep with me at night. She will cry and cry in her crib until she falls asleep. I have remained strong during those times because I know if I pick her up and bring her to my bed, she will want to do this every night. I share custody with my kids father as well. You might want to talk with her mother about normal sleep routines so that both of you are in sync with the times she goes to bed and if she likes certain things before going to bed (i.e. reading her a story). As far as her doing this in the middle of the night, check to make sure she isn't cold or anything else that might make her uncomfortable while sleeping. If all else fails, try and comfort her back to sleep.
2007-03-14 16:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 03:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's not trying to be the boss of you, she's trying to communicate what her needs are. An 18 month old, for one thing, needs her mother. She shouldn't be away from her at night. If you guys insist on doing this to this poor baby, at least let her sleep with you. It's how babies evolved, it's what they need.
What other possible way can she get what she needs than by expressing her unhappiness.
Your attitude shows a complete and utter lack of understanding of the needs of young children and a total lack of empathy for your child.
Just let her stay with her mother at night. Your baby needs her mother.
Why are you guys doing this to this poor little thing? Didn't you ever read the story about solomon, the two moms, and dividing up the baby?
Put your baby's needs first. Sheesh - how spoiled are YOU?
2007-03-14 16:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
GROWING PAINS...... But coddling your infant would not hurt if it gets really intense. i don't think she needs to be taught who's in charge- she may feel uncomfortable in having to adjust her sleeping patterns from one environment to the other ( from her mom's house to yours) She is becoming more aware of her environment and my be more sensitive to stimulus going on around her at night- Talk with your pediatrician...this should help you out with your crankiness!
2007-03-14 17:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by DJA30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's not crying just because she needs her mother!!! it's called separation anxiety.....and it happens around this time...when she cries...just continue to go check on her and soothe her back to sleep....she just needs to know that you'll be there when she needs you....it's a phase and she will grow out of it...and it will make a stronger bond between the two of you when she's older...
2007-03-14 16:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by toniagwatson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to suck it up and let her cry herself to sleep, it will be hard but necessity. When i was a baby i cried and my parents eventually let me cry myself to sleep for a couple nights straight and after that i was not crying at all when i was put to sleep.
2007-03-14 16:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-03-14 16:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋