Ok, here it is, I attract guys based on my looks, maybe the blond hair? Anyways, I always seem to end up with the guys that are no good for me. I want someone caring, considerate, and affectionate, but it seems like that never happens. What kind of vibes should I been sending out to find that special guy? Someone I know will be there for me when ever I need them, and someone who loves me for everything, not just looks. How do I know that he likes me for me and not just the body and hair?
2007-03-14 15:47:58 · 15 answers · asked by waterskiblond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I know that he likes me for me and not just the body and hair? - We really wouldn't know a hundred per cent. And if you would ask him questions like, "What do you think if I dyed my hair brown," etc. But anybody could just say, "I like you for who you are, so please don't change." How will we deal with that? But the thing is, most good relationships start with physical attraction, you see.
Anyways, I always seem to end up with the guys that are no good for me. - It sounds like you're being pushed around in a relationship. Or worse - you might be pushed INTO a relationship. That shouldn't be the case. Or even if you aren't in a relationship, perhaps you should let them know that No is No, let barriers be clear and draw the line in red, etc, all that assertive things. But perhaps I'm getting it wrong.
I'd like to hear your explanation. Contact me and let me know (u3m9ap@yahoo.com). Or a clearer picture might enable us to think things over better.
I want someone caring, considerate, and affectionate, but it seems like that never happens.
-We all do. But even though I'm not a big fan of Shakespeare, I find what he said intriguing in Twlefth night - act 3, scene 1:
Love sought is good, but given unsought is better.
What kind of vibes should I been sending out to find that special guy? -It's best to be yourself. Don't mind so much "vibes" but be on the look out on what makes you happy. Perhaps you're looking to hard.
And when you ask that question, you're giving me the impression that you would sacrifice a lot of things about yourself, possibly the better things about you. The thing is, the more we worry about these things, the higher the possibility we will have of having self-esteem issues. Some people obsess about getting the lastest of haute couture because they're afraid people will treat them differently if they don't have the latest LV.
We should not only be physically ready/equipped when entering a relationship, or when looking for one. We should also be emotionally, mentally, psychologically, spiritually (which is of course different from being religious - so what if we have different religions.) prepared for things before entering something.
I think you're a good person. Don't worry yourself too much of what others might demand of you. Seek to preserve yourself, too. You might be losing the best parts of you for a gamble. Are you sure they're worth the stress? Perhaps you need to go through a detoxication period first. Think things over and be with yourself first.
2007-03-14 16:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think it's the hair, you could try changing colors, or style. But if you want someone caring, considerate, and affectionate...for the right reasons, then you should go to where they may be. Would that be a bar, or say perhaps, a church, or a Christ centered youth gathering? Guys living for God have Him as their primary focus, and then act considerate towards others out of obedience.
2007-03-14 22:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lone Papa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We can't tell the future but your turn will come. Don't worry about it. Just go on and have a good time till you find your man one day. Just remember that if you really like someone, he should love you for who you are and not only the physical attraction. It is what holds the heart that matters. Good luck.
2007-03-14 22:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say the exact same thing that you just stated in your question."Someone I know will be there for me when ever I need them, and someone who loves me for everything, not just looks." You will find that right guy eventually but don't go looking for him. Let him come to you. That's where your biggest mistake is in going out and searching for your special somebody.
2007-03-14 22:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by kissable britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy to find the perfect types of guys - realize for starters that the guys that are most easy to get are usually the worst catches - you need to dig pretty deep through all the junk to find one little piece of treasure, and it takes time and luck. Just be yourself and dont try to let any possibilities pass you by, and explore each one carefully.
2007-03-14 22:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him until he proves himself to you. Make him court you; dinners, phone calls, sweet gestures. You're worth the effort and any guy who doesn't measure up needs to hit the road. Remember, every relationship ends until you find the one so you may go through some frogs before you get your prince. LOL
2007-03-14 22:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like jerks. Don't feel bad most girls do. You come across nice guys all the time, you have to there every where. Yet you choose the jerks. If you hook up with a nice guy you will long for a jerk. I know it sounds crazy but its the truth.
2007-03-14 22:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're attracting unsavory guys, it's time to take your relationships into your own hands. Start finding guys who fit the qualities you want and ask them out instead.
2007-03-14 22:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know them as friends first. If they stick around after a month when they've seen you bloated moody and with PMS then they love you for you
2007-03-14 23:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a bomb shell then you probably go after the typical egotistic meat head, and you blow off the pencil neck dorks that will treat you like a princess
2007-03-14 22:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋