Okay, here's the scoop. Him and I have been best friends since we were two months old. But now I REALLY REALLY like him. He has a girlfriend that's in 6th grade (we're in 7th) and he's been with her for a long time. He loves her. He is now hanging out with the "cool" kids and doesn't talk to me unless we are alone. When we are alone, he tells me everything. I am like his shrink. I really really like him but i don't want to go out with him if when we break up we won't be friends. I want to be BFF's 4ever but i also want to be more than that. Then my friends that are girls keep telling me that he is such a jerk and that i shouldn't go out with him, but i know he's not a jerk to me. HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-03-14 15:25:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok here is my advice
wellll .. if he doesnt show any signs he might like you.. then dont go after him .. make him .... go after you. you dont want to risk losing the friendship unless you have some clues that he wants the same thing you do...girlfriend or not he will always show signs. try to have one of your friends tell him u like him ..without sounding like you asked them to.... and subtly yet obviously (if you can) flirt flirt flirt. be your self .. and dont be shy .. it really works .. walk by him .. and just JENTly brush againts him .. and keep walking .. look back after and smile with just a bit of seduction in your expression .. and do the walk that makes guys look at your butt...it always helps to flaunt just a little subtly lol haha .... but dont go wayyyy over the top with it .. lol. need any more help ?? just ask ;]
2007-03-14 15:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth do you want someone who ignors you when he is with the cool kids?. He tells you his problems becasue he knows there is somone there to listen to his dramas, hes' using you, sorry to put it that way. But for him to have known you that long then toss you aside becasue your not "cool" is really low. You don't need him he's not a real friend real friends don't do that. How about you not llisten to his problems next time when he comes to you. Say your busy and see how he reacts and if he says what's the deal tell him how him not talking to you when others are around is really upseting to you. And as for you wanting him as a boyfriend,if he wanted to be more he would have told you by know. Your both very young at the moment and you don't know what the future holds so don't just focus on him. Date other people you never know you may find yourself a great guy and not think about your friend like that anymore.
2007-03-14 15:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well first he shouldn't just talk to you when he is ALONE with you. Also if the two of you are BFF you should be able to let him know during your alone time with him how you feel about him ( you never know maybe he feels the same way you do but is too shy to say anything first). Make sure you express to him that if the two of you can or can't be together you still want to remain friends regardless. Then you leave it up to him to think on and get back to you!!!!!!
*Good Luck to you and him*
2007-03-14 15:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by chauntee d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recomend that you follow and listen to your emotions, you must make a decision on which is more important to you, your friendeship with the boy, or, a close loving realtionship with him. In some cases you should listen to what others tell you, however, in a matter such as this, if your deepest wish on this subject to have a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and know he is not a jerk (at least to you) then take the plunge and try get together with him.
2007-03-14 15:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm a junior in high school now and I had the same problem in 7th grade, but the guy I liked was in 8th so of course he wouldn't talk to me in public. What I did was talk to him about it and it came out to after him and his "crush" broke up we got together. Were still really good friends even though we broke up 2 years ago and and I can tell him everything even about my boyfriends and he talks about his girlfriends. We have decided that if its meant to happen it will in the future. Just talk to him and find out what he thinks about it because usually if you know someone for that long, like I did with this boy, he likes you too, even if he says he "loves" his girlfriend. Hope this helped. =]
2007-03-14 15:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. But i never became his girlfriend only because i didn't want it to mess up our friendship. As much as i liked him i couldn't do it because u and i both know not all people break up on good terms, and me and this guy were beyond best friends, we were So close like brother and sister! and as far as him not talking to you like he use to, not for nothing but that should tell u something, if he cant talk to you in front of his new "COOL" friends, then what kind of friend is he? its not fair to you, that he only speaks to you when u guys are alone, he should be able to speak to you in front of anyone if that's how close u guys are! and don't listen to anyone that calls him a jerk, cause honestly they don't wanna see u guys together cause they rather see themselves with him! good luck!
2007-03-14 15:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by yolif862002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see, if he tells you everything, well then are you comfortable in telling him everything? If you are then you could just tell him you like him. If your not comfortable in telling him then just slowly hint it. Slowly make him realize that you like him. If still nothing happens, then maybe u should get one of his friends that's also one of your friends to tell him, preferably a guy. Tell this guy to tell him and see what happens. Remember to keep in mind, GUYS ARE NEVER FRIENDS WITH A GIRL UNLESS THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM YOU. Believe me, if he keeps talking to you like you say he does, then he probably has some feelings towards you. But, if you don't tell him soon you might lose him. You need to tell him before it's too late. You may think it's too big of a risk, but remember, love is always about risks and everything happens for a reason.
2007-03-14 15:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is a jerk .......open ur eyes that is messed what he is doing to u . talking to u when u guys r alone? how dumb thats is not a good friend u know ! and if he really likes this girl then let them go out ...but if they do break up and u like him well go 4 it and tell him how u feel ....and if he doesnt understand well then he is a dumbass but if u do go out hope ur happy and good luck
2007-03-14 15:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a jerk for not talking to you unless you're alone. What kind of friend does that?
I'd rethink your plans to be best friends and lovers until he starts treating you like a friend all of the time.
2007-03-14 15:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is your friend and you feel like you are losing your friend. Don't mess it up with trying to date him. As you two get older you'll get closer even if he is with the cool kids and you're not. He will mature and your friendship will mean more and more to him. By the time you are out of highschool his loyality will be to you. If along that path you both feel you like him more than just frined it will happen. I think you want him so he won't leave you.
2007-03-14 15:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋