How often do you talk to your mother?

Question

For the people who still have a living mother (to the others, I'm sorry for your loss) how often do you communicate with her, either personal visits, e-mail, or by phone?
I have a daughter in college out-of-state who is much 'too busy' to talk to her mother, except for a quick e-mail sometimes to tell me she is "too busy talk", but will soon.
Do other people have this problem with grown children?

I want everyone to know I appreciate your response and wish I could choose EVERYONES answer as 'best answer' !

Answer 1

I am 23 and I talk to my mom every single day. I feel bad if I dont take the time to call her and talk for at least 5 minutes. We try and hang out as much as possible also. When I was away at school 5 hours away I still talked to her as much as possible at least every 2 days. Hopefully she will realize what she is doing before she doesnt have a mommy to call anymore.

Answer 2

She should be talking to you at least a couple of times a week. I think it's time to bring back in the reins. Tell her you're thinking about cutting the funding and bringing her back to her own state because you are worried about her.

Don't listen to her excuses... tell her after a semester at home you "might" pay for her to go away again. It doesn't matter how much you screw up her future.

I don't want to scare you, but I had a friend that was distant from his parents while away at school. They didn't know it but he felt isolated and didn't want to have contact with them. He ended up committing suicide.

Most likely she is just having fun, but I think if you follow the above she will realize that she has responsibly. Yes, a family is more important than college. You bet! Family is more important than college or a career. She needs to "learn" that and it's not going to be taught in the university.

jv - I'm crying too and i'm 51 yrs old. Had my dad only until I was 13 and moms been gone for 8 years... I still want to call that 80 year old lady and listen to her advice. Kids - Don't isolate your folks as there will be many regrets even when you are an old man or old lady.

Answer 3

I'm away at college and I miss mom. I make sure I talk to her at least once a day! I have this thing in my head that you never know what could happen so I make a point to talk to my mom everyday, my dad at least every other day, and most of my family once a week. Mom and I are really close and as I've gotten older we've gotten closer. There was a time that we weren't this close, but I'm married and my husband is deployed so she is always there for me. I try and go home as much as I can. But working makes it hard!
Good luck and I hope she makes time to talk soon! Just call her and leave messages just saying you love her. She may be trying to be independent and doesn't want to you to think that she is weak. Email her and tell her what's been going on. Things should get better!

Answer 4

Actually, I call my mom almost everyday. But, I can at the moment. My work has slowed down. When I was really busy at work, I would do the same thing your daughter does. I would send a quick e-mail to tell her I love and miss her and I will call her when I can. Its really hard sometimes because I really want to call her but after a hard 12 hour day at work and coming home, I am usually really exhausted and sometimes wouldnt even answer my phone at all. I dont think she's ignoring you or anything like that. I believe that she is busy. Once it slows down, she will make up for the lost time. Hope this helps ya!!!

Answer 5

I talk to my mom 2-3 times a week on the phone I wish I could see her though she only lives 18 minutes away but my life is so hectic but I do call her to see how she is and how daddy is and I let them know how we all are doing and I am 43. My daughter calls me or I call her pretty much every day she even calls me from work sometimes just to say hi and make sure everything is okay. Hopefully when your daughter isn't so busy she will give you a call and talk your ear off.....

Answer 6

Sorry your daughter is so busy! I can't imagine ever being too busy to talk to my mom! She lives about 5 minutes away, I see her 3 or 4 times a week, talk to her on the phone several times a day, and usually a few e-mails a day as well.
I'm 36yo, been married for 16 years & I still need my mommy, lol!

Answer 7

My parents live around the corner from my husband and I. I probably talk to her 2-3 times a week and see her 1-2 times a week. She doesn't usually call me but expects me to call her otherwise she's butt hurt if I haven't. I'm twenty something with no kids and I'm sure she would like me to call and see her everday. But I just can't do that because it's not good for my health. I love her alot but she can really be a downer sometimes. I probably should take advantage of the time with her since she lives so close...heck I think I'll go see her now. Thanks!

Answer 8

Every day at least once I talk with my mom, but she also lives right next door. We weren't always like that, though. I've come to have a greater appreciation for (which gets greater every day), now that I'm a mom. I've been through some real rough times that I don't know how I would have made it through without my mom. So hang in there, she'll come around.

Answer 9

I lost my mother when I was 18 but if she was still alive I would talk to her every chance I got. I would tell your daughter that there is no such thing as tomorrow and if she doesn't take every opportunity to have a conversation with you then she might end up regretting it later on. Before my mother passed away I never really told her how much I love her and now everyday that goes by I hate myself for it.

Answer 10

I am grown up and been outta the house awhile. But I talk to my mom at least every other day if not every day. Normally it's an everyday event, however, now that I am back in college, Wednesdays I am in classes all day so it's kinda hard. So, usually the talking gets skipped that day.