My ex has just said i can only see my daughter once a month she is only 2mnths old and I want to form a bond. So why do women have children with people they don`t like do they not care about what it`s like for the farther.
2007-03-14 15:14:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She says i am a nice bloke and did nothing wrong but feels awkward I think she is being a real ***** myself
2007-03-14 15:26:26 · update #1
Thanks to everyone who offered good advice and kind words I was well upset about it and it cheered me up
2007-03-14 19:26:48 · update #2
One of the best thing a father can do for his children is to be an great husband to their mother.
Unfortunately, this advice is too often not followed which lands many a man in the situation of wishing he did things differently.
2007-03-14 15:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You aren't a mother so you unfortunately can't understand this. The baby is at an age where you just want to protect her and keep her with you every second possible. All you think about is how to keep your baby safe and happy. Why don't you try working with her a little? Offer to come over and watch the baby while she naps, eats or takes a shower. Or offer to help her take the baby out for a short walk on a nice day. When you are stuck inside all the time you can blow things out of proportion because you have too much time to focus on it. Sometimes it is hard to get out with a little one. That will probably make both of you happy. Be sure to do things "just" how mommy wants. Make sure she knows you are trying to do things the "right" way. This is a new and exhausting time in a woman's life. Hormones make you weepy and sad. Bear with her. She has separated from you and now she has this really big, important responsibility. Also, if mommy feels you let her down, she may be trying to protect her daughter from the disappointment of having you do that to her.
2007-03-14 23:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When relationships break down, people can be vindictive and really try and hurt the other person. She's doing it to hurt you, but she's also hurting your daughter. She should stop thinking of herself so much , and think about your little girl. Once a month isn't enough , how would she feel if she could only see her once a month? Whatever happened between you 2 doesn't matter, what matters is your little girl has 2 parents who love her.How would she have felt if she had only been able to see her own dad once a month while growing up? Don't get into rows over this, talk to hercalmly discuss it. If she won't let you see her more often, take her to court for more frequent visits. Good luck. It's not about how she feels, it's about your little girl's happiness. If she can't face seeing you , maybe a grandparent or other relative could be there when you go to see her.
2007-03-14 23:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be fairly honest it really depends on what women see in a man before and after the child is born. However you see it if you may her become seriously angry at you that could be the mean reason why shes acting like that towards you. When a man makes a big mistake they don't think about what or how a women is feeling if you let your pride take control of most of your mistakes of course a woman is going to judge a man for who he is if she see nothing that he would do to be there for his child. The best thing to do is not let your pride take away who you really are if you is who you is then thats all but she will go by her opinion of what she think you is and try to abuse that opinion against you. Not every woman like that but when a man pushes a woman to far in the relationship please believe a woman will trash your whole man hood and just make your whole day difficult. Basically if you want a relationship don't invite your pride over when you want this relationship to go far because most woman really want is closure and respect if you let your friends build your pride up you will be on a woman hit list..lol. Handle your situation! be there for your daugther and not think about what she saying because your doing the right thing by showing your a true father and you can handle the responsibility
2007-03-14 22:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah dude she is definatly being a sorry assed *****, my brothers ex is the same way. In my opinion and what I have been told because I have asked many women, they dont care about the father because the father can be temporary, while the mother will always be the mother. A daddy can be replaced and usually will be easily when the moment arises.
2007-03-14 22:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by David K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that my husband loves his daughter from a long term relationship but I also know that he doesnt want to deal w the mother due to other issues so he only see's her 2 times a month. drives 7 hours one way to spend a day with her. I think if his ex wasnt the way she is things might be different. And I bet she liked you when you were with her, things just change.
2007-03-14 22:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, how far apart do you live from your daughter? Are you able to possibly see her for a few hours every other day? I would take the issue to court, and if you live fairly close to each other, I would try to get it arranged to see your daughter for at least a few hours every other day...until she gets older, and able to get more time... progressivly. Hope it all works out!
2007-03-14 22:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Disneynutcase 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it's because she has issues with you and is taking it out in this situation. Talk to the courts, and have them consider giving you joint custody where you can see her more often, because she has no real legal right to keep you from seeing her. I hope all goes well for you and your beautiful blessing
2007-03-14 22:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children of any age need their fathers just as much as they need their mothers. If your ex has a justifiable reason for you not to have a more active role in your daughters' life, prove her wrong. If her motives are petty and/or selfish, not in the best interest of the child, you should fight for your paternal rights to be equally involved in your daughters life. Best wishes.
2007-03-14 22:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by .......... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a jerk or give her any reason to think that you don't deserve to see your daughter ? How did you treat your Ex when you guys were togather ??? Did she use you just to get pregnant ?? If she did it would be pretty obvious now .
2007-03-14 22:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ hello_kitty_xoxo ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people dont agree with me, but I think its fine. Just means something went wrong, but you are okay with who you are. Lots of moms are single these days...
2007-03-14 23:34:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋