I am a senior in high school and all these years I have kept myself from being friendly with guys because whenever I would it ruined my relationship with girls. I feel I had enough of that bs. It's not my business to care how they feel right? I mean I am so sick and tired of girls hating me just because I start talking to a guy!!
2007-03-14 15:01:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, I can tell without even seeing a photo of you that you must absolutely be an amazingly hot chic. Why else do other girls get defensive and jealous over another female talking to their guy?
To answer your question, no, you are not responsible for other people's feelings. You are responsible for your actions and behaviors. As long as your conscience is clear, what other people do or do not think about you is none of your business. In other words, don't let these insecure gals rent space in your head.
2007-03-14 16:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem last year, and I would always end relationships with guys, so that I would not hurt the feelings of my friends that were girls. I finally figured out that if your girl friends do not like you having a boyfriend then you have to give them up. If they cared enough about your friendship they would want you to be happy. What is probably happening is that your friends get jealous when guys talk to you and not to them, so they want to split you up from the guy to make themselves feel better. You are right. You should care about your friends feelings, but only if they care about yours in return.
2007-03-14 22:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any friend who hates you because you start talking to a guy isn't a real friend. Especially, by the time you are a senior in high school! I can see it in elementary and maybe even middle school, but high school, people should be beyond that behavior. At some point, you have to live your life for you, and you need to just do it. If they get mad, try talking to them and explaining this is a part of life and they need to accept you for you. If they can't, find new friends.
2007-03-14 22:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are silly for being so concerned with how girls feel about you. Especially since you are in your senior year, pretty soon you will never see them again. So if you want something to happen with you and a guy, I suggest you put your fears aside and make it happen.
But to answer your question, you have no responsibility for how anyone feels. What they feel is there business and you really should not care. People come and go in life.
2007-03-14 22:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the reasons I hated high school is because your very question. Everytime I had a conversations with some girls boyfriend, I was the enemy. As long as you have no intentions to break up any relationship or whatever, don't stop talking to the guys. I left high school with very few relationships with those girls and still maintain great friendships with the guys. As long as your strong enough to deal with the heat, don't let caddy girls tell you who you can talk to. If you need to tell them, Hey, we are just friends. If they can't accept it, who cares!
2007-03-14 22:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by sassystace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If talking to a guy ruined any relationship, it is so obviously their fault. Maye it is envy or something. But you owe it to yourself to do as you please and most of all, to do what pleases you. Don't let some flaky relationships get in the way of your personal growth.
In the best case scenario any friend of yours should be glad that you are taking on even more friendships, and your friends should stay by your side and be there for you, helping you. Real friendship knows no conditions (except of course not sleeping with your friends partner *g*)
2007-03-14 22:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place it is not none of their business if you want to talk or even date a guy. As long as they can control you like this, they will continue to do so. Live your life, and the heck with what others think, especially them girls. If they wanted to be your friend, they would not act like this, they would be happy for you, instead of acting like this. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 22:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by zack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying, but I don't feel like hurting peoples feelings is a very good way of dealing with this. I just would not worry about what they think. If they get mad cause you talk to a guy them just ignore them. They are jealous and that should be compliment to you. You get to watch there weakness and they will never see yours.
2007-03-14 22:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are responsible for the people you deliberately hurt but not for those who decide on their own to be upset with what you do. It involves a lot of self-awareness but if you are talking to some guy because you want to, you aren't responsible for anyone who might be upset. But if you are talking to him BECAUSE you want to hurt someone, then you are responsible for the foreseeable results of your intentional actions.
2007-03-14 22:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do have responsibility for another person's feeling if you're currently involved in their relationship, wheter friends or bfs.
2007-03-14 22:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by =) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋