Some of you probably saw my posting earlier about my husband & his fake orders. My husband has been leaving EVERY weekend & staying the whole weekend for "work". Well, we have a joint bank account & I recently went in & got a statement for the last few months. On these weekends he's been going to restaurants (& obviously paying for more than one person)movies, liquors stores, etc. When I confronted him about this he said it's all job related & they're investigating people. Yeah, I know the government does investigate people & all, my question is why does he have to pay for it? He says his unit is new & they don't have the funding. But he's spending money at restaurants left & right & like $40-$75 each time. He even goes into his overdraft protection to have to compensate for some of this. I asked how the government could make him do that & why he has to pay for the other people he's with. He says they can make him do whatever they want. Is this true?
2007-03-14 14:59:07 · 22 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
No, he does not get reimbursed. Any time I ask questions he tells me he can't tell me anything about his job because nobody is supposed to know about his job and what he does. He tells me he has clearances and I don't.
2007-03-14 15:09:36 · update #1
He does have a military credit card but he says he has to pay it back all at once if he uses it. I just don't get it.
2007-03-14 15:11:15 · update #2
I worked special ops in the military, and if this were the case, especially if he's CID, they would provide him a credit card in his name. To catch someone at something, his credit card would be inadmissible and could be discredited. A military issued credit card would hold more weight if it is used in the line of duty. The military can command you to do many things, but anything to do with money is completely illegal. They would not endanger the wellfare of a soldier's family by making him spend his money, and thus possibly draining your account, or setting you back on bills. I was issued a credit card, and it was to be used at my discretion, and would be scrutenized by the brass, and they would approve or disapprove my spending. If it was meant for business, and if it was acceptable to the task I was involved in. I hate to say you are being scammed, but it looks like he is using your ignorance of military procedure against you. If I were you I would talk to his commanding officer, and ask point blank if he ordered your husband to use HIS credit card. the answer will be, NO. This is all a little fragmented, and maybe unclear, very sorry for that. If you need a better explaination please e-mail, and I will try to be more concise. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 15:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds as if your husband is using the old trick in the book to leave home. I have witnessed these acts while in my 18 years of service in the Navy. It is easy to tell your wife that you have to leave for the weekend for work or even for a day. I wouldn’t go to your husband’s commanding officer right away. Try asking some question from some of your husband’s friends. When they give you an explanation, look at their body language and tone of voice. This would be a dead give away. If they are not telling you the truth, they will not look you in the eye, and their voice will have a low tone. Ask more than 1 of his friend and see if they both say the same thing.
2007-03-14 22:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by gus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get away from this man as fast as possible. He's already gotten you involved in committing fraud by going along with the fake orders. The government can't make him spend his own money like that. If he had to go out to dinner and movies and such for work, he'd use a government credit card. End of story. They wouldn't make him pay it back unless they caught him spending the money on himself. It sounds like he is having an affair, and you may very well have proof of it now that you have those credit card statements.
Your other post sounded like you were considering divorcing him - I say get a lawyer now.
2007-03-15 10:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay military credit card you don't have to pay back all at once, trust me that is the lowest interest rate that my husband and I have and it always has money on it.
Is he in the military?? I would talk to his commanding officer.
BULLS*IT about the unit not having money, he is lying to you, what Government agency does not have money to investigate people, okay maybe yes I can see him using his personal account, but at the end of every month he should be getting reimbursed.
Can the government make him do whatever they want yes, would they reimburse, yes, would they be that secret, maybe, would it be every weekend, probably not.
2007-03-14 23:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bull twinkies. he's lying through his teeth. if they are on orders the ONLY thing they can use to pay for it is the military provided credit card.
about the only thing he is telling you the truth on is that the cc does have to be repaid in full each month. which is why you submit the chit to get reimbursed immediately.
2007-03-14 23:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I pretty much agree with all the other posts on here.
Make sure that you get the military involved when going after him...Talk to his commander, as there are provisions under UCMJ (Uniformed Code of Military Justice) where he can get in trouble for his actions as well. I would LOVE to be your husband's commander...I would enjoy ripping him to shreads and hanging him out to dry. People who use the military as a scapegoat to be unfaithful to their wives are cowards and need to have their b*lls removed.
2007-03-15 13:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Robert N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need to keep all this documentation and turn it over to your divorce lawyer. It doesn't sound as if your marriage is going to last if he's that adamant about lying and using the Military as an excuse for it.
2007-03-15 09:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get my own account and quit depositing into the joint account. I would also leave. Get a good divorce lawyer. He is taking you for a ride. In other words, he is lying. Also, get in touch with "cheaters". Google it, and you will eventually find out what he is up to for free.
2007-03-14 22:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by ProLife Liberal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to believe it but read what you wrote. That's the oldest excuse there is for a cheater. Why would work have to go the movies? You can't have a meeting there. And liquor? Nice restaraunts? Come on..... Sorry.
2007-03-14 22:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Eisbär 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to his commanding officer. And if he is cheating, tell his commanding officer that too, because the military frowns on that kind of behavior. Don't let your ignorance be his bliss.
2007-03-14 22:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by zianneaaliyah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋