am i a bad person?

Question

im 14 my mom really ill at the moment and i give her **** when im really stressed even though i don't mean it and i tell her i hate her and say stuff like i hope you die but i feel really bad as shes really ill today i told her that i hated her and wished she was dead but i was stressed i didn't mean it and this makes her really upset does this make me a bad person?i said sorry but shes not speaking to me at the moment

Answer 1

YES!!!! YOU MAJORLY HURT YOUR MOM'S FEELINGS!!!! APOLOGISE RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how would you feel if you were the woman who sat there pushing you out and took care of you all your life and then your daughter who you did all this for said she hated you and wished you would die?

Answer 2

You are not a bad person, but your actions were VERY inconsiderate!
I'm sure you are very stressed out about her being ill and have a short fuse because of that (and the fact that all 14 year olds act like this)
You need to sit down with her and apologize again and tell her you are very sorry and you didn't mean it, you just have a lot of stuff going on and you are overwhelmed and unfortunately took it out on her

Well this being said, if this is your scenario...

Answer 3

You may not be a bad person but you are lacking in maturity .Everyone says things in anger sometimes to hurt another. You telling your mother you wished she were dead is like cutting her witha knife.Words can hurt more than we realize.We should all think BEFORE we speak.Once the words are out, we can say sorry,but it doesn't take the hurt away.Try think of when someone said something to you in anger.If you are like most people, you felt bad.It feels even worse if it is said by someone we think loves us.Your mom will come around.Do you know why? Inspite of the name calling, she will always love you.Your mother(like everyone else) is not going to live forever. Try build your relationship with your mom not throw it away.

Answer 4

I don't buy that "you're just a regular teenager" cr*p. You know it's wrong, and you clearly see how it makes your mother feel. DOn't come on here looking for sympathy... I wouldn't be talking to you either if it were me.

You are fully aware of the damage your words cause; I imagine that's why you say the things that you do. But that's an immature, kindergarten way to handle your anger or frustration. Big kids, and grownups, have to communicate their feelings without hurting other people.

You owe her an apology, and you need to look deep inside you and figure out what your problem is that you talk to her like that. And you need to find a better way to communicate. She doesn't deserve your abusive outbursts.

Answer 5

You need to adjust your attitude towards her. I never said stuff like that to my mother but I will always remember the one day I punched her in the back. That was over 25 yrs ago and it still bothers me to this day. I regret it. I did it out of anger, and I look back at it and think to myself,...what did I accomplish by doing that? Absolutely nothing. It wasn't worth the pain I placed on her and the pain I feel after all these years.
Talk to your mom, apologize, try, try, try not to do it again. You apparently have issues that need to be addressed and I would start with your school guidance counselor and take it from there. Good luck, and please respect your mom, she's the only one you'll ever have and she needs your support right now.

Answer 6

Being stressed is not an excuse for being hurtful. When you say things like "I wish you would die" you are saying that for the specific purpose of inflicting hurt. My suggestion is if you get angry walk away, its better to walk away than to say things you really don't mean. The bad thing about words is, once they're spoken they cannot be taken back. Some times things left unsaid are unsaid for a reason. Do something special for your mom, take a few hours and concentrait on her needs, show her that you love her.

Answer 7

your a teenager. I remember telling my mom that I hated her at your age too.That doesn't make you a bad person. It would be hard to find a teenager who NEVER said something like that to a parent. But it still hurts. I remember my mom telling me that my words were more painful than being stabbed in the heart. Next time you get so strssed, try a different approach. Maybe write your feelings in a journal that only you will see.

Answer 8

join the club girl, you need a pissedoffness outlet. this can be anything, typically freezing cold/ boiling showers, drawing if ur an artist, writing if ur a writer, writing why ur so pissed off in a journal, and listening to really loud rock music are typical remedies. just u cant scream at ur mom like that no matter how pissed u get because shell just remember that about you and not the real you.
and apologize too ur mom but dont say "im sorry" write her a letter at least seven sentances and put it on her pillow, it seems more sincere

Answer 9

your not a bad person you just need to find a better way to deal with whatever stressing you out, try TALKING to your mom I'm sure it'll make you both feel better.
"Sorry" loses it's meaning after a while, especially if your apologizing for the same thing over and over!!!

Answer 10

i dont think you are a baddperson. Everyone gets mad at thier parents or even just yells at thier parents when they are stressed out..i swear at mine alot when i am mad/stressed although i really dont mean to. i think you should just confront your mom and tell her how you are sorry and how you dont really mean what you say, your just stressed. Next time you are yelling at your mom think of different language to use. if she wont speak to you maybe right her a long e-mail or note just telling her how you actually feel. Explain the situation to her. she should understand
-hope this helps

Answer 11

not to be too harsh but you really shouldn't say those things to your mother, ever, whether she's sick or not. the only way to explain how it feels is to imagine if your best friend told you those things. really harsh. it doesn't mean that you are a bad person though. you should probably just watch what you say. just because you're stressed doesn't mean it's okay to say those things to people. especially your mother.