You know how you know somebody but you dont know them that well (if that makes sense) its a girl at my school and she knows my name and i know her name to, and i always say hi every once in a while, and i think she like me but i can never find the confidence to just walk over to her and talk, so do you think if i write a note or letter to her, will that be childish.
2007-03-14 14:44:26 · 28 answers · asked by Christopher M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no that wouldnt be childish, im in high school, and guys that find the time to right down their feeling for a girl are really hard to find, i think its awsome, go for it!
2007-03-14 14:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the girl. You are taking a big chance writing the letter. I'm in the same situation right now. I like her, im almost certain that she likes me, but we never really talk and I can never think of good reasons to just start talking to her without sounding like a total freak. If you write the note and she does like you, then great success (as borat sagdiyev would say). If you write the note and she has no interest in you at all, then she will think your a freak. Lose lose win win situation. Also, if the girl is shy, a note may be a good icebreaker. But you are going to eventually have to talk to her, so just finding a good reason to make casual conversation will work out better.. and will be easier and seem less desperate.
2007-03-14 15:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nick L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it but watch what you write about because most girls that age will share the letters with their friends. Make sure you write it in a mature manner. But I personally think she'll have more respect for you if you talk to her in person. If that's too much pressure on you then you can kinda feel her out through her friends. Ask them about her and her situation and that you're thinking of asking her out. Believe me bro, they'll do most of the work for you. Meanwhile, don't stop at just saying "Hi". Bring up small talk more often. I'm telling you this out of experience and from past mistakes. I'm 35 and it's my duty as an old dog to you young bucks some pointers. Good luck. I'll be rootin' for you!
2007-03-14 14:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is a bit childish, don't ever underestimate the effectiveness of a secret note. Girls love getting notes of admiration. If you write something mature and serious, but complimentary, she will appreciate it. And if you never hear anything back about it, then you will know she doesn't reciprocate the feeling. Well, or she is too shy to say anything back. But, it would be better if you just walked up to her when she was alone, or called her on the phone and said, "I really like you. Can we get to know eachother better?" You could take her for a walk or to a movie or even to a local Starbucks and buy her a drink so you can talk and learn more about eachother. Just make sure she knows you like her and act like you do. Don't be mister tough guy. ACT LIKE IT. Make sure you treat her with priority over your friends when she is around. If they tease you for it, who cares. You say to them, "Yeah? Whatever, where is yoiur hot girlfriend? I treat her like a princess and I get the royal treatment right back."
2007-03-14 14:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter and invite her to the movies or something like that. Give it a go, if you never do it then you will be always thinking in the back of your head that you may of missed out.
I recieved a letter from a guy when I was in school and it made my day. Good luck
2007-03-14 14:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go either way. no hearts on the letter or x's or o's for hugs and kisses, just a simple well thought out letter appreciating her in all the ways you do: not "you make me want to jump your bones" but "you are kind to others/you have a great sense of humor/you're a talented artist" . Or pick a flower and just hand it to her one day, like you couldn't help yourself. I had a guy do that to me once in high school, and it was very romantic. make sure she's not allergic to it ha-ha. that would be bad!
2007-03-14 14:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Stormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look listen to me, you have to go up and talk to her. If you cant gain the confidence and you think writing a letter to her is a good idea its not. She will 99% of the time think you are a stalker and that you are a wimp for not going up to her and actually talking (flirting) with her.
Take advice from a brother and save those love notes for AFTER you are dating.
2007-03-14 14:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by noviballer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is writting a letter too a girl to childish even if your in high school?
Do you mean...."Is writing a letter to a girl too childish even if you're in high school?"
Check your spelling and grammar before you sent the letter, she'll be impressed that you took the time.
2007-03-14 14:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Terry S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude write the letter. Use a couple jokes and make it sweet. girls like that stuff. Just dont get to serious with it. It is easier for some to express themselves in writing then with speaking. Use the talents you have.
2007-03-14 14:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by miketbone20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you really like the girl, do whatever you have to do to get the ball rolling. Now, if you do write a letter or note, make sure YOU are the one who gives it to her, maybe make small talk then so it's not so awkward.
2007-03-14 14:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by brooke3348 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋