i have been dating this guy for 4 months but have been messing around for 3 years. i moved in with him before we became official but i feel that he only asked me to be his girlfriend because he seen that i was gettinge really close to another guy because he was never really ready for a relationship! shortly after dating i found out that he has been doing some heavy flirting with girls online after he promised that he would stop for the 3rd time. now he feels that it would be best that we live in separate homes! i don't mind doing this because i miss having my own space but i feel that he only wants to do this so that he can continue to flirt with women! i was thinking that if we do this, then i would need to end the relationship because i feel that i can't trust him because me being away from him would drive me nuts! or am i just overreacting?
2007-03-14 14:40:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Brace yourself; tough love ahead: He's only in it for the sex. Dump the player and find yourself a real man who focuses his attention on you and you only. A man who treats you like a lady and wants the relationship to move forward, not backward, sideways and upside down because he's jealous and immature. He's out there and you deserve him.
2007-03-14 14:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being away from him while you are together
shouldn't drive you nutz, if you can decide to
leave him so easily...
you say you moved in with him before you guys became official... but "official" is just a label
What matters is the quality of the relationship... not the label
You shouldn't tell him to stop flirting
If he wanted to stop flirting he would...
but, the fact that he wants to flirt means he isn't fulfilled with the relationship, and probably not the "one woman" man type of guy...
2007-03-14 21:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Big D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, unfortunately I think I have to agree with you. If the reason he feels you both need "space" is because you've confronted him about this "excessive flirting" for a 3rd time!!! Well, I would be of the same opinion you are, that he wants space to continue to do so.
2007-03-14 21:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you're not overreacting---here's your sign. If the man doesn't want you to associate with other men, yet at the same time needs his space to associate with women, you have to ask YOURSELF if this is really what you want in a relationship. Trust your vibes, mistrust and double standards are never the foundation of a fullfilling relationship.
2007-03-14 21:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by .......... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still flirting on line when you are in the same home, what else is he doing under your nose? i was dating a guy for 4 yrs and 2 1/2 of those years he was engagd to someone else and married that person while i was pregnant with his child, get out as fast as you can run don't look back
2007-03-14 21:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes leave him. The fact that he keeps on flirting online with girls tells that he wants to seek for a new relationship. So, he has lost interest you already. You dont need a jerk like that to be wasting on your precious time. Theres so much more better guys out there for you.
2007-03-14 21:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by =) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to judge from just hearing a little of one side of a story.
But, I think he wants to have his cake and to eat it too. I think he was jealous of you possibly with another, but wants to kep his flirting going. I think you are correct in believing he wants to continue that, especially since he has continued this long. If he wants you to move, it may be best to break off.
However you are the one to ultimately assess the situation and make the decision.
Good luck in whatever you do.
2007-03-14 21:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by sparbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..hmm.. when you love someone, trust should always go in it.. but if you feel you really can't trust him.. then maybe it would be best to end up your relationship.. what's the use of you being together when you can't have peace inside because i believe, fear would always come to you that someday, your bf would eventually find another girl.. but as they say, you are not suppose to demand your love to love you more.. it is you who should do your best to let your love, love you more to the extent that he'll never want to go far away from you.. good luck..
2007-03-14 21:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by nikka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it first you have been messing around then their is him just flirting you tell me what is worse what he has to stop flirting so you can keep doing someone else just leave it be why dont yas just get married
2007-03-14 21:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds real normal to me. However move out first and then end it a few weeks or months later.
2007-03-14 21:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋