2007-03-14 14:35:32 · 29 answers · asked by crazyplay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm I'll start with wow! As for the guy that isn't your husband, well I'd never tell anyone to stay with someone their not happy with, but yet again, look at what you have now(family) and think about what it could be like after a divorce. Your 35 so this guys 25, has he settled down (in therms of partying and what not). Your talking about taking a big step and there might not be any going back after. Your kids will always love you not matter what happens. Good luck with whatever you choose...follow your heart.
2007-03-14 14:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age thing no you are not crazy, I'm 12 years older than my husband and we have been married 7 years. Being married to someone else is the problem with 4 children you must be careful, and around for your kids, good luck!
2007-03-14 21:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, without taking this the wrong way, but no your not crazy, your just going thru some changes that most women start to feel when they get close to their 40s.... its almost like a mid-age crisis....its completely normal, just so long, you dont cheat on your husband and family....its either one man or the other...children will always be there and the situation for them will eventually work out for the best in the end, so dont ever stay in a relationship for that reason alone...but i think you should really prioritze and understand that this is a phase your going thru...maybe you should stop seeing this other guy and concentrate on other things. Dont go crazy, this is a normal thing to go thru...its hard, so hang tight and good luck
2007-03-14 21:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. If you love your husband, love him and no other. If not, get divorced. But don't let your hormones do your thinking for you. That's a mistake that about 70% of men do and women are generally smarter than us. If you're still married 10-15 years from now your husband may be asking this same question about some hot young thing. I would avoid it. Is he worth demolishing your family?
2007-03-14 21:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy, but you are playing with fire and someone will likely get burned, your children first and foremost. Lust and love are a lot alike. Does this other person make you feel wanted and needed. If so, is he worth the possible destruction of your marraige and the psychological effects it may have on your children. We as women want to be appreciated and not taken for granted.
Ask yourself what is it about this guy that you don't receive from your husband and what was it about your husband that prompted you to marry him. You're not crazy, my dear. And you are not alone. If you believe in God, ask Him to come into your heart and help you with these feelings you are having. He will answer, but in His time, not yours.
I wish you well
2007-03-14 21:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are having a mid-life crisis....you want to cheat on your husband, because you already are emotionally. If you were truly in love with your husband I don't believe it would be possible to fall for someone else, yeah, maybe a lil crazy because I think you're headed down a path that's about to do some serious damage to a lot of people's lives : (
2007-03-14 21:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you are crazy.Will this guy take on all 4 of your kids with their hurts and anger towards him for destroying their home?Will he still think your fine 10 yrs from now?Or when you turn 36 will he trade you in on 2 -18 yr olds?You arent in love, your just infatuated.Get over him and stay married.Youll be glad you did, your kids will thank you and your husband will too.
2007-03-14 21:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that 25 year old kid wants anything to do long term with a single mom of 4, yep, you're frackin nuts. That boy isn't doing anything with you except doing you. It must be a kick to rock an older woman who belongs to someone else.
Don't be a dumb *ss and mess up the lives of 6 people because you're going through a phase.
2007-03-14 21:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No but you could use some counseling. First, are you ready to give up your relationship with your husband and all that intells? Second, you haven't mentioned how this romantic interest feels about you; so is this YOUR romantic fantasy? In any case, before you throw the baby out with the bathwater, you need to do some serious consideration of the consequences of your actions before you make your choices.
2007-03-14 21:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't crazy but you're thinking like an immature teenager who has no sense of responsibility and respect towards her marriage which is a committed relationship that is supposed to remain a source of honor. Emotions come and go but what you do about those emotions should always be something that will not hurt anyone, including yourself.
2007-03-14 21:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋