I have a really bad shyness problem. I am 15 years old, male, in 10th grade. I have a few friends and i am good friends with them, but there are so many things I want to do but cannot because i am shy/embarrassed. I cannot live this way, as i have moved three times in the past three years, een to thre different schools and i do not know where i will be going next. Please, i need a solution for my terrible shyness.
2007-03-14 14:29:32 · 15 answers · asked by bonycask 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be yourself and hangout more with ur friends... go to parties...and talk to girls...
2007-03-14 14:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life and attitude are all that can cure you. I was pretty shy when I was your age. Most of the people I know would laugh if I told them that. There is nothing wrong with just haveing a few friends. I only had a few friends till I was in my early 20's. Not counting all the girl friends I had when I was in grade 1 to grade 4 or so I didn't have a girlfriend till I was 25, and only had one other woman in my life before that. I learned my confidance by building on the confidance I had in other areas. focus on what you are good at. work out from there. Also Life's weird twists and turns help to build confidance. Don't be a hermit, get out and do stuff, even if it means you feel shy around people. Exposure to people helps. Always remember that people are all just people like you and very few really feel totally confidant. Most have some insecurities like yourself. Everyone is an individual just like you. Are you afraid of yourself? I think not. Do not be afraid of anyone else either..
2007-03-14 14:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet your shyness has something to do with you having to move so much. It's tough for anyone especially a kid.
I guess you are holding up pretty well because you can come online and talk about it. Dont worry, what you can do is find a friend of your age online, who goes to your school. Find them on Yahoo or myspace. That way when school bell starts, you'll have a friend on campus.
Good luck and keep smiling to other kids. It's the best way to make new friends without having to say too much.
2007-03-14 14:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have moved around alot to different schools. Maby this is a problem there cause your use to having to get use to new people all the time. I was a military brat and i know how this can affect your ability to socialize. You basically have to teach yourself not to be shy by speeking out your thoughts more. The way i overcome my shyness at your age is every time i passed a stranger i smiled all the time and said either hi or how are you today. This helps you to be able to speak and smile and you learn people are not so bad and there not going to think your crazy if you smile or say hi to them. eventually you just get use to doing this to every one. Its a great way to start anyways. Hope this helps . God bless and good luck.
2007-03-14 14:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, when I was your age I battled the same thing. It all stems from insecurity (even if you don't feel like you're insecure). I'm sorry to say, but the only way to do it is to practice not being shy. Try going places where the people you know will not be. Then introduce yourself to people. Play-pretend that you are an out-going guy. If you make a fool out of yourself, who cares, you don't know those people & will never have to see them again. The more you practice letting yourself out, the better things will be for you.
Shy people never get what they want - because nobody knows they want it.
2007-03-14 14:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to realize: life doesn't wait. If you don't do things in life because you're too shy, you'll end up regretting and that's never a good feeling. Know that you only live ONCE. I used to be super shy,,,I'm ALOT better now and even at times, I can still shy away from certain things or people because I feel intimidated...but slowly make that progress to JUST DO IT and things will get better for you. Don't be so shy! You're a guY!
2007-03-14 14:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your shyness as a form of self-centeredness.
There are interesting people out there, and they'd be flattered if you introduced yourself and gave them some attention.
You can avoid being embarrassed if you focus on getting to know others, asking them questions about themselves, and then asking even more questions after they answer you.
2007-03-15 06:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was like you when I was in school. Don't worry as you growup and mature later, your shyness will slowly fade off and you will be a new man after that. Just be cool and hang in there.
2007-03-14 14:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably get shy about many things that are not that embarassing to do. You feel weird, while others think it is normal. Just have the guts to do what you want to do.
2007-03-14 14:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it!! Go up to people and talk to them. Just be nice and respectfull and they have no reason to be mean or rude. If they do then they are in the wrong. And probably not who you want to be around anyways. The more you do it, the easier it gets....so get started! =)
2007-03-14 14:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by brandon42032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat and i know it is tuff but you just literly have to ack like the little engine that could and after a while it get easier....good luck!
2007-03-14 14:32:44 · answer #11 · answered by swim chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋