My parents were too protective when I was growing up. They wouldn't let me hang out with friends, go out or anything. When I turned 16 they wouldn't even let me drive. I got my license and even after I turned 18, 20, 21 blah blah blah they still wouldn't let me drive. They made me go to college after high school and I begged them not to make me go cause I didn't know what I wanted to be...to this day I still don't know what I want to be. I can't find a job when I look and they give me the hardest time about getting a job. Now that I'm 24 they expect me to know all this stuff...they tease me why I'm not married and why I don't have a boyfriend and they make a big deal about me staying up late. They won't believe me when I tell them I suffer from depression...or that I stayed up late long before I had a computer...for some reason they think it's my only problem...and it's not. I feel like I'm trapped in my own home. I want to get away but I don't now how. I can't even reason with them.
2007-03-14 14:26:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not a only child. My brother moved out and lives in Georgia and my sister is getting married soon.
2007-03-14 14:34:46 · update #1
I used to be able to fall asleep instantly...but now I got to where I would stare at the ceiling and not be able to sleep. I would stay up till 1-2 in the morning...and now since I got a computer they think I'm staying up because of the computer. They treat me like a freaking child...And when I try to talk seriously with them they tease me.
2007-03-14 14:39:35 · update #2
Seriously, get a job, get your own place and get away from them. They treat you like a baby, but then expect you to magically be an adult.
2007-03-14 14:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by StormyC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Parents play a big role in influencing their child's life but I don't believe that parents can completely destroy their child's life. It's true that some parents make better parents than others but it's my opinion that in the end each one of us is in control of our own destiny and we have the will power to change our future. Even if a child's parents were crack addicts or maybe seperated or were terrorists I do not believe that the fact in itself guarentees a ruined life for the child.
So after answering your initial question it seems like you want some advice on how to deal with your parents. I think you should just try talking to yourself first, in your head obviously. And ask yourself where you want to go or what you would want to do. If you've graduated from college with any major degree you shouldn't have had too much trouble finding a job. Find a profession you feel passionate about and persue it. My best advice is to first find out who you are first and then firmly tell your parents who you are. I know you say that you still don't know what you want to be and maybe you want to take time to figure that out but at the age of 24 I feel like you are ready to take on life's challenges. Good luck with everything.
2007-03-14 14:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by White Infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an only child? Maybe that is their problem. They want the best for you, of course, but they have no idea how they want you to accomplish that....it seems they drank the Kool Aid and figured as long as you went to college you're going to get a high paying job somewhere. What is your major? I would say that you need to get a job, get a life outside the home, and take things from there.
2007-03-14 14:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, in a way but don't let it get you down. I have a similar experience but what is done already done, and that was the past, just go ahead with the present and future. No use of blaming anybody at this moment. You have to make do what you have and accept your parents as they are. After they are your family and they care for you. Good luck.
2007-03-14 14:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I sometimes think or actually know I'm the way I am now due to pressure from my protective parents. Can you move out of the house and support yourself? I found that as the best solution to cure my depression and learn to be independent. Forget about them not allowing you to move out. You need to do it for yourself,,,and I know they love you and don't even realize what mistakes they are actually making.
2007-03-14 14:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my mom was just about as strict as yours... couldnt go to dances, basket or football games.... wasnt allowed to try out for sports date nothing.. no friends.. i was like kept in prison... for her own reasons...she was protecting me from whatever she felt necessary. When you are older and are independant... YOU have the choice to keep your life the way it is all protective and everything... or get out there and enjoy life... people friends.. socialize... do the things you wernt ever allowed to do... For you are grown and You parent cant tell you how to run your life anymore. They may not like it... but there is not much they can do. just be patient... I was patient and i love my life... I am married.. have 3 beautiful kids... and am doing things I want to do... and theres nothing they can do to stop me. :o)
2007-03-14 14:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by misspookett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you are an adult, act like one. they can advise you but not tell you what to do anymore. second you are an adult act like one, stop blaming your parents for the thing in your life that you do not like and just change those things. third you are an adult act like one, get a job (even if it is only fast food) and move out on your own. when you do that the whole question will become obsolete.
2007-03-14 14:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by nbatch2006 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find yourself a job and move immediately. Better move at least 100 miles or you'll still be bothered by your parents. Also don't let them have your phone number when you move.
2007-03-14 14:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by notadeadbeat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Find some people worse off than you and go volunteer there.
Your parents are protective, sure, but you're now continuing the trend.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 14:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Speak to them. Pour your heatr's content. Bridge that communication gap and be happy with your life. After all, they are your parents.
2007-03-14 14:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋