My son is getting married by next month. He is a CPA by profession. Since it is my first time to have a daughter-in-law, I want to erase all negative notions against a mother. You see, we are a closely-knit family.
2007-03-14 14:23:42 · 12 answers · asked by september 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ah wow you sound so great already! I've been married for 9 years and have a great mother in law. She's not perfect and neither am I. I'd say what I like about her is- I can call her anytime about anything and she never judges. She just listens and is compassionate. And heck even sometimes she just tells me what I want to hear and that is great too. But I do go to her for advice about her son and our children. There she is so caring and candid and always wants to help. She never shares my secrets with her daughters or anyone else. She takes me out for my birthday for lunch and invites me out every now and then for just coffee. She will drop everything if I am all alone and need to take a child to the er and she will stay home and watch the other 2. She has even gone with me to my ob appointments when my husband (her son) was too afraid to go and heck me too for that matter.
So really in a way you are getting another child to nuture and raise up to become a strong woman.
Good luck- and just love her and when the time is right tell her alot in your actions and sometimes words
2007-03-14 14:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the relationship you have with her. My boyfriend's mother and I get along well, but I don't think I could handle her as an in-law because she tries to intervene too much in our affairs. Not that she doesn't have good intentions, but she always has to see everyone do things her way or it's just not right. I would say avoid being overbearing, that's a scary thought for perspective daughter-in-laws. We want to have a good relationship with you, but we also have our own mothers and our own lives. Best of luck!
2007-03-14 21:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by dolce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wonderful mother-in-law. Actually she is my husbands step mother, but since he has no relationship with his birth mother, she is his Mom. Just be supportive of their relationship, and try not to interfer, even when you feel that your daughter in law may be wrong. be genuine, and take interest in your son's future wife. But I have to say that by asking this question you are already on your way to being a good mother- in law.
2007-03-14 21:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law loves me as if i were her own daughter (she has 4 daughters) she makes every effort to treat me like a part of their family. she allows my husband and i to live our own life, free of her criticism. she is supportive when we, or i go to her with a problem or for advise.
i would say the trick to this good relationship is to treat a daughter in law like a daughter, not like a partner of your son's.
2007-03-14 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by sherman supporter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close-knit=Danger! Danger!
Seriously, don't tell them what they should do. Don't make plans for them or drop by without calling. Don't call their child "your" baby. Don't call every day.
Ask her to come along on female/family functions.
2007-03-14 21:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insist he treat his wife with respect and include her in all family activities in which he would be part of. Never leave her out. Make sure she knows she is considered part of the family.
2007-03-14 21:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by StormyC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be on top of them all the time. Mae sure that they make their own ddecisions about their future by themselves, even if you dont think its right. Let them learn from their mistakes.
2007-03-14 21:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law is deceased but i would want her to be non-intrusive. one to not choose sides and try to be a peacekeeper. not take the grandkids and let them act in ways that my husband and i don't agree with. and don't act like my house is your house-you are a guest.
respect is the key, but she needs to respect you as well and your son.
2007-03-14 21:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't act as if you still know what's best for your son.don't offer unwanted opinions. be accepting. be complimentary. see if you can find things taht you both enjoy - besides your son - and nurture that friendship. good luck.
2007-03-14 21:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One that does not butt in there business, but is there if they ask for any advise.
2007-03-14 21:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋