it's a contradicting attraction....
could it be because the guys that i DON'T like--i don't show no interest...so that keeps it interestin for them?
and the guys that i DO like--i'm really aggresive towards them. always seeing what they're up to...always wantin to hang out with them..etc..etc...so it scares them away??
seems like theres always some "mind game" u gotta play to get some1 to like u--don't u feel the same way??? such as the "hard to get" game...and the "act like u don't really care" game...haha...i guess life is all a gamble..isn't it.
2007-03-14 14:18:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably because you are more confident and yourself around the ones you do not want. You need to be yourself
2007-03-14 14:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by LUCY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be... errr, some people always seem to be attracted to things they can't have, and they are kind of disillusioned with the things that they have. It doesn't have to be just boyfriends or girlfriends, it could be clothes, shoes, cars, homes, your job or careers... "The grass always looks greener on the other side."
Sorry I don't really know what causes this, but in extream cases, you must learn to appreciate the things you have or it will end in a long and disappointing life.
I could be totally off basis with this... but, take care and enjoy what you have... don't wish so much on what you don't or can't have.
2007-03-14 21:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you!!! When you do play the game like you don't care it's almost easier, even though you always have this urge to "like-like" (I'll talk in your words) them. But at least for me, I pretended or am pretending I don't "like-like" this guy, and now he acts like he "like-likes" me, but now I'm actually starting not to "like-like" him, but I'm sure that doesn't happen to everyone and probably won't happen to you. Ok sorry, enough about me.
If you're always trying to talk to them or tagging along, then I'm sure they're going to act like that, because they'll feel like girls are all over him or them, so he'll think he's too good, or that he could get the girl that's popular and all the boys are all over her to "like-like" him, so he'll be more popular, is this kind of making sense? or is it too confusing because I always seem to get sidetracked and people have no idea waht I'm talking about, well anyways He would just be taking advantage of you, and make himself popular. So you should pretend not to "like-like" him, but still be happy and fun around him/them, because smiling, being happy, an dhaaving high self esteem is attractive, and htey'll feel more comfortable talking and being around you.
~Sorry it was so long. Hope I helped~
penguin~helper
2007-03-14 21:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, yes it is!
i liked this dude for a while and when i finally got over him now.. he's got where he always looks at me and when i catch him, he turns pink and looks down (hes really shy) and makes a reason to walk with me to class, even if we dont say anything other than "hi" and walk... i just want to be friends, now and im not sure if he's really flirting or if he just has an odd way of being friends but thats just the way it is!!
theres no set of rules for it, sorry!
2007-03-14 21:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by janna w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be looking for a certain "type" and avoiding potentially good guys. Once you put aside the notion that your guy has to look a certain way, there are lots of neat guys out there who know how to treat a lady.
2007-03-14 21:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just that when your being agressive towards the guys you do like, you end up scaring them off. While the guys who you dont like see you as "approachable." I have two answers. Hit a role reversal and treat the guys you like as if you dont like them & scare off the rest by being extremely aggressive. Or instead of just playing games, just tell the guy that you like him. Us guys are lazy and dont like to play games, be straight forward with us and we'll be straight forward with you.
2007-03-14 21:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by René 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a little of both. you should rent how to lose a guy in 10 days it will answer some questions for you.
also remember murphy's law (anything that can go wrong will and at the worst possible moment)
2007-03-14 21:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by nbatch2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha.
nice, same problems here too.
thats funny.
well what are you doing to be so aggresive towards the people you like??
and what are you not doing to the people you do not like.
but dont treat the people you dont like bad.
maybe you need to show your intrest in people a different way.
dont be aggressive, just be nice and smily but show yourself to them, dont show off but just give them a taste but not too much, you want them to think they just cant have it. but in your mind you are all "you know you want it!"
well just dont blow it. [you wont]
maybe you should put forward more clues to as who you like.
well.
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did i help much??
good luck. :]]
2007-03-14 21:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sierra. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you might treat the people you don't like as if they were your friend and the people you do like as if they were someone you were uninterested in. Try talking to the people you like and figure out what turns them in and off.
2007-03-14 21:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attract the guys you like to you.its called the law of attraction..look it up the secret*
2007-03-14 21:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋