Relationship problems..what to do?!?

Question

Okay so I'm going to be 15 in a month, high school is cool, I love my friends, and my family. But I haven't been in a relationship in 2 years!! I've been strong and haven't really had a thing with a guy since summer, which I felt was a smart choice for me because it being my first year in highschool and everything I felt that I needed to concentrait more on my school work than boys. Well heres my problem. I don't really like anyone at the moment,but all my other friends seem to have boyfriends but me. And whatever I don't care, I just feel lonely all the time.Is there something wrong with me because I haven't had a relationship in 2 years?! What does that mean?! I'm scared too because I haven't made out in 2 freaking years, and I feel like I come off as shy & insecure. I'm tired of being looked down on or not being noticed!!

Oh and PLEASE DO NOT say that I'm too young to be in a relationship,I'm not stupid & I'm a smart girl who can make her own descisions in her life.

Thanks :]

Answer 1

its simple just go ou there and get a boyfriend

Answer 2

You said you made a choice to focus on schoolwork, which shows that you are a very smart girl. Keep going on that train of thought until you graduate college and I promise you won't be sorry. I was a late bloomer in the dating department because I focused on my school work. At the time, I felt left out and lonely, but now, I see all of my 'early bloomer' friends struggling with divorce, low-paying jobs, dissatisfaction, and a whole lot of 'wish I woulda' and I'm glad I put school first. I have a job I love, an awesome boyfriend, some money in the bank, and a college education that is paid in full. As far as the making out thing, yes, I feel your pain. Sexual tension is sexual tension, no matter how old you are. Remember though, a baby or an STD would derail your dreams. A little self-love can go a long way. PLUS, you'll be able to show your future dream guy exactly what you like.

I know it seems like all of your friends have boyfriends and are happy, but boyfriend doesn't equal happy. I bet some of them wish they were single and smart like you. Work it.
Who knows, maybe there is a smart boy out there who would like to date you casually. That way, you both could focus on school work, but still have dates for proms, group outings, and just good old fun on a Saturday night. Those are important things too, but unless you're a Playboy Bunny, school will get you further in life than sex.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I think your a very smart girl who is just being very careful not to make the wrong decision. There is nothing wrong with you. Taking on a seriouse relationship in high school can add alot of pressure to you. But you do need to have good social skills also. This helps you grow out of all the shyness and and being insecure. Thats where good friends and maby a date every now and then helps. Your doing good wish i had been that smart when i was your age. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

Its fine you're a girl that don't make guys her life, and thats not a bad thing at all, but you still need to have some fun. Maybe just ask one of your guy friends to hang out, i mean if you don't have a connection with anyone in your school then you're doing the right thing by not having a boyfriend. It would just be a wast of time and not satisfying. But i'm sure you're going to end up feeling some sort of conection with a guy if you just ask some of them to hang out. Good luck

Answer 5

This is completely normal. The problem is, this can get girls into trouble sometimes. What you are expiriencing is some desperation or need for a boyfriend. You simply want to have that one guy for you so that you feel noticed and wanted. But seriously, you DONT need a boyfriend to simply make yourself noticeable. And if any of your friends tease you about it, they arent worth your time. Besides, relationships arent about having each other for the sake of looking good to other people.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong really. It takes time to find "the one" you like. Don't worry, is either you have too high an expectation or the boys you met are really sub standard =P

I hate to say this 15 IS too young for a boyfriend. A fling no, serious bf yes.

Answer 7

just because you don't have a boyfriend doesn't mean your shy or insecure. If you think that your doing the right thing go along with your self confidence. Theres not that many people who can feel confident and stick up for themselves. If you feel like you have to have someone you like then get to know people....but for now i think your doing the right thing by going with what you feel is right.

Answer 8

Hey dont get all wrapped up in finding a guy you have your whole life in front of you you meet a nice guys become friends and then one day get married good luck

Answer 9

wel..if u see a cute guy..then try to hook up with him. maybe the right one hasn't come your way yet...and when he does..u will know that it was all worth the wait!

keep your options open..then all of your "taken" girlfriends will be jeolous that you are dating all these other hotties...while they're pretty much married to their boyfriends.

go have some fun!!

Answer 10

Relax im 15 and a sophmore in highschool. freshman yr relationship wise was horrible! give it time next yr you will have new classes and meet new ppl who knows who you meet ;)

Answer 11

¤ courting status? - In courting ¤ Longest courting? - 3 years, Teenage love. he's married now, we are stable acquaintances ¤ Ever been cheated on? - so a techniques as i understand, no longer. ¤ have you ever cheated? - No and that i by no ability will.