there are 2 guys one is my boyfriend and the other guy i"used to" like. lets call my boyfriend bob, and the other guy joe . My problem is I think I still like joe a lot. he was my first real crush but he never noticed I existed. I see him more now cause of an activity I am doing and he talks to me a little more. I still really really like my boyfriend but I was thinking of what if joe did ask me out. it probably won't happen but I was thinking I wouldn't know what to say. I thought at one point I was in love with joe but now I am so happy with bob. I would never want to hurt bob but I don't know what I would do if this happened. I never thought I would even have a chance with joe but the other day he made me think maybe i do and now i am really confused. what would you do if what i described happened to you please help!!!
2007-03-14 14:12:10 · 12 answers · asked by kddg2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i will stay with my bf. yes joe is my first real crush but i dont sure that he will make me happy, right? but with my bf, i know he always make me happy. always remember, love people that love you more than himself ok.
2007-03-15 21:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by idah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you in this situation, I would stick with 'bob.' He seems like a nice guy and he is already your boyfriend. Going for an old crush doesnt seem appropriate at the moment. Dont think about what you would say if Joe asked you out, because it hasnt even happened yet. Be happy with the moments you have with Bob.
2007-03-14 14:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stay loyal to your current boyfriend. If you do break up with him for this Joe or cheat on him then think what Joe would be thinking if you become his girlfriend. He might be worried that you would do that again if someone else picked you up.
If you really want to go out with Joe then break up with your boyfriend first. If you are not ready to do this then you must really like your current boyfriend and should stay with him. If he asks then just say that you already have a boyfriend but if you want him to try again later if things don't work out then tell him you did have a crush on him.
2007-03-14 14:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by nproe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats on you...you just have to think who you want to be with more not even knowing how joe feels or if you guys would even last. maybe he is just flirting. we never really forget our crushes but sometimes it's better to push them aside especially since you already have something good. how would you feel if you loved a guy and the same situation happened to him and he left you for her? if you really end up wanting to be with joe then dump bob at least, dont cheat or play him.
2007-03-14 14:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in each persons shoes respectively.
How would bob feel if you decided to break up with him in order to go after joe?
How would Joe feel if you broke up with a guy for him?
Now, before you get lost in your thoughts, let me provide you with a few more details:
-Girls who break up with guys to go after other guys recieve the label of: "Flaya" (a female player). And sometimes in extreme cases "cheater".
-Guys typically are less likely to be interested in such a girl because of their past experiences. In other words, when it gets around that you're that way, they'll become uninterested in you simply because they can't trust that you'll stay in a relationship with them.
-Having word go around like that isn't necessarily bad if you're only interested in short term relationships.
-Some guys get a kick out of ruining other guy's relationships. They get a thrill out of it and will simply do it for the sport of it.
There's more but I'm in a hurry to leave, so sorry to cut the list short.
2007-03-14 14:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by DatingZion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with Joe now. Be loyal to him. Would you want him to dump you if he was in a similar situation?
2007-03-14 14:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kewpie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask joe if he would like to hook up. Dump your old boyfriend if he does.
2007-03-14 14:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were you, i would wait and see what happens.
or find out which guy i love more & the guy that loves me back.
2007-03-14 14:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he started talking to you a little more doesnt mean hes attracted to you.
2007-03-14 14:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by K Boose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See which one will wear your panties for a day. That should tell you.
2007-03-14 14:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋