I had to break it off with my ex a couple of years ago due to family reasons, beyond my control. He broke off any communication with me. After two years, I'm still in a shaky state, still think of me day and night and am constantly living in the past - looking through old cards, mails, gifts etc. I want to contact him and see if I can keep in touch as friends. We were great friends for quite a while before we started going out. But I'm scared that he still hates me. Could he still hate me for what I did knowing that I've repented it ever since?
2007-03-14 14:11:59 · 44 answers · asked by silent_tears 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doubt he still hates you..I think you should call him and see if he wants to date you again if he doesn't then I am sure you will move on with your life....Good luck.
2007-03-22 09:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But equally he could also be wondering ...'What ever happened to...'
All it takes is for someone to lift up that phone and make that call. It does not matter which one of you who does this so long as ONE of you does this. So it might as well be you... go on you know you will regret it if you do not... at the very least if he still hates you (after all of this time...?) then you know that there is no point continuing to pine for him and you can move on.
If you carry on like this, pining you could find yourself asking the same question here in another two and a half years wondering where all that time has gone to...
It is never time wasted it is only time used for nothing so you might as well use it for something and make the call - the past is gone now and you can only look toward and walk towards the future.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 09:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone truly "loved" you, there will ALWAYS be a connection because you allowed another human being access to the "real" you. There is an old saying "You cannot love a person unless you hate them as well." Both words are so misused. Does love conquer all? Only you know the answer to that. Your love cannot be measured by another. If this person has shown you a happiness you cannot achieve with no one else. Then that person is worth the second chance. But the sad part of that equation is, he must feel the same way or at least close to what you feel. Do you trust your heart in the hands of someone you once believed loved you? Do you want to find another similiar love? If you do, you will be looking for a long time for his twin. Hope this helps.
2007-03-14 14:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by SONOFPHAROAH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. If you feel you need to get in touch with the guy to say sorry, then maybe you should. How did your family feel about the guy and you two breaking up? Maybe this has no relevance at all as to whether you contact this guy at all? Depending on whether he accepts your apology and his reaction to it, would you still like to be friends? Two years can either be a short or long period of time, depending on a person's make-up and coping/healing process!! If the whole situation had been reversed, what would you have done and how would you have reacted? Deep and perhaps unnecessary questions to ask yourself or for me or any one to ask? But then so is constantly living in the past, as you put it! You can't have have rosy thoughts about the future when your mind is full of the blues about the past.
2007-03-22 09:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He hasn't contacted u in all these time, then y would u want to??? the fact that u r looking at his cards, mails etc and u stated that u r still shaky, is reason enough for u to stay away from him. U just want to try your luck again and are lying to yourself about wanting to be just friends!!! Move on, obviously he has!!! If he knows that u have repented it and if he wanted to get back together he would have come back to u knowing he would get u back but he hasn't sooo..... what do u think??
2007-03-14 14:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 years is a very long time to have been sad and upset over this man. I suspect( maybe I'm wrong) that deep down you hope that if you rekindle the friendship... more may follow.
I'm a great believer in looking forward and not back. Have one last look at all your letters etc and a bl88dy good cry, stick them all in a box and put them in the garage or loft.
Start to do new and different things, a new club/hobby,
tell girlfriends you need to get out more and ask for their help, try internet dating... there are free sites.
Move on honey... you've spent too much time in limboo and mourning.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-22 03:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by happy girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was it that happened? Family reasons? Well, I think you guys can be friends if he wants to even be friends with you. I'm best friends with my ex because of the love I will always have for him and we were the best of friends before we even got together. I know that at least for the time being, we can't be together. Who knows later on, but regardless, it's possible. Unless he doesn't really want to be friends with you, and in that case you're screwed. Don't obsess over him, it's not healthy. Email him. Don't call him. You can text him or something. Myspace! :P
2007-03-14 14:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by MaRiNa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the exact circumstances that caused the breakup, or what you have done to him to make you think he should he hate you, nobody can give you advice what to do next. Basically you both seem to have had a good friendship foundation then later lovers. If you really care for him at least as a friend, do contact him & let him know you are sorry. Don't let false pride ruin a good relationship. Who says sorry first doesn't even matter.
2007-03-22 06:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends how mature you both are, but yes ex's can be friends after the relationship is over. I'm still friends with several of mine. I get the imoression that maybe you want more than that though, be careful, reopening an old can of worms can be very difficult to close again....
2007-03-14 16:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you still love him. It is possible to be friends with an ex but, if you still love him... i dont know. what about the reasons you broke up? are they still there? if so, you maybe only torchering yourself if you contact him. If this is just one of those things you feel like you have to do then call him and find out whats going on, maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he still loves you and you 2 could figure out these problems...
2007-03-20 01:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by samira 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your thinking about the past because you're not happy now. You've got to sort things out with yourself first otherwise it'll just **** it all up with your ex. He'll have moved on and so must you. That doesnt mean you cant be friends but does mean you cant expect it to be the same
2007-03-14 16:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋