My fiancee and I are planning our wedding and have found the perfect spot. I've always had this location in my heart, even before we were engaged. Its on a cliff and can only fit about 50 people. 65 at the most. But, were inviting about 140 to the wedding. Any idea of how to write out the invitation to the "Reception Only" people? Thanks!
2007-03-14 14:08:47 · 10 answers · asked by bethany_connors 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Were not doing it as a gift grab or to be rude. But it is OUR wedding. I dont want to change my dream location so my Great Aunt Friedas' second cousin's daughter can attend (etc..) Our close family and friends will be there. As for the reception, it will bepeople who knew me and my fiancee vaugely, parents friends, our family doctor etc. And we will have a photographer with a digi cam so she can upload the wedding photos fast and a slideshow will be played throughout the reception on a wall so reception guests can see it.
2007-03-15 09:01:12 · update #1
** ALSO!! I am asking about invitations, not your personal opinion about how i'm arranging and planning MY wedding. So if your answer doesnt relate to my question... DONT ANSWER!
2007-03-15 09:02:28 · update #2
Don't use the words "exclusive" and "open". Use "Intimate" and "larger".
Your main invitation should invite people to the reception. Then, you insert a ceremony card with the details of the ceremony ONLY for the people who are invited to the ceremony.
More info on the appropriate way to do this type of wedding here:
http://www.crane.com/Etiquette.aspx?C=WeddingEtiquette&S=WeddingInvitation&I=Invitations_to_the_Reception
2007-03-14 14:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if it's not your intention, it comes across as a gift grab. You will have guests who talk about how beautiful the ceremony was and the location, etc and they won't realize that they're talking to someone who wasn't invited. So the guest who was not invited to the ceremony will wonder why you even invited them in the first place because they feel like a 2nd or 3rd class citizen instead.
The only time I was ever invited to or attended an open reception like that was in a case where the bride and groom were both Mormon so none of their guests could attend the ceremony. They had a much smaller guest count at the reception than anticipated because many felt that if they couldn't attend the ceremony, they weren't "special enough" to attend the reception. As it turned out, the bride refused to allow anyone who did show up to talk to her or the groom or take photos or anything that would be considered normal. People who chose not to attend did talk about it for months after about how rude the couple was, which they were in all honestly from start to finish.
2007-03-14 14:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the invitation should say something like this:
Mr & Mrs Parents Request the Honour of your Presence
After their daughter Frick Exchanges Marriage Vows with Frack
on the 56th of the Month at 15:00
Please join us for the Reception at
Fabulous Mansion
My Dreams, NY
Or something to that effect.
Just curious, how are you going to pick & choose who you invite? I would limit it to immediate family and bridal party (w. guests).
Good Luck!!
ps...maybe you can find one of those photographers who have screens and can play a slideshow of you guys actually getting married during the cocktail hour so your guests don't feel left out! Just a thought!
2007-03-14 14:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you don't do this. You only invite people to the reception who are invited to the ceremony. The idea of the reception is to have those people who witnessed your marriage vows, celebrate with you. It would be extremely rude to invite people just to the reception...
2007-03-15 00:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is cool you are having your wedding on a cliff like you wanted. (if your the same person who has posted about it recently). Congrats...I think if you go to a place that makes invititations they will likely have samples of just reception ones.
2007-03-15 00:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I hate it when people do this. I wouldn't want to split up my guests like this. It's just not right. Maybe you should consider a smaller guest list. Or a diff. ceremony site.
2007-03-14 14:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can go on-line under wedding and find lots of wedding etiquette stuff, some that even have exact wording for situations like that!
2007-03-14 14:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please join us for an
enchanted evening
of dining and dancing
LOCATION
TIME until TIME
to celebrate the marriage of
(Bride) and (Groom)
For the guests who are invited to the reception only.
The ones who are invited to both should have a regularly worded invite with reception to follow ceremony @ ______________
2007-03-14 14:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A special invitation for those people. "Please join us in celebration of our marriage at ______." People will have to understand that in special locations only close friends and family will be able to attend. It's YOUR wedding anyhow.
2007-03-14 14:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by BellyRubz 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People do this all of the time. I even have seen invitations that specify the individual events.
Could say something like......."Please join _____ and _____ as they celebrate their union." or something like that...lol...I'm not good with wording...
2007-03-14 14:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋