I love this girl dearly and cherish the time im with her but im not her first love and she has just come out from that relationship. She tells me she loves me but I unfortuantely I dont believe it even though i want to. She and her first love did everything together and well she is my first. But the problem is whenever im with her she always mentions about her first love whether it be i went to the beach with him or i had a summerjob with him. I know it might sound like im jealous but we have been together for almost 6 months(short or long however you want to see it) isnt it time she moved on. Maybe she isnt meant for me and maybe i should just let her go back to her first because it seems he will never leave her mind?
2007-03-14 14:06:28 · 14 answers · asked by cupidscircle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like she jumped from one relationship to the next with you before she'd taken some time to breathe. not fair that she's always bringing him up.
speak up and set some limits....maybe you take some time off and reconnect in 2 or 3 months....sounds like her wound is too fresh and she's using you as a band-aid.
2007-03-14 14:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never forget her first love. Most girls don't. With time she will think about him less and less. It will take her time to move past that. Six months is really not that long when you think about it. The only thing i worry about for you is that you are her rebound guy. The first guy after a long term relationship is usually bound to fail. If you love her than be patient. Give her the time to realize that her first love isn't the guy for her. Obviously she cares about you or she wouldn't be with you. She is romantisizing her first love and not thinking aobut the reasons why they are not together anymore. As you two build memories togerher they will replace the ones she has with her ex. Hang in there, but don't et her walk all over you just because you love her. have you told her that it upsets you that she always talks about her ex? She probably doesnt' realize how often she does it.
2007-03-14 21:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't gotten over the first love yet. It's tough.
Maybe you should tell her to take some time to clear her head. Tell her you don't believe she's ready for a committed relationship. She how she responds. If she continues to talk about the X, tell her you need a break. Say we'll see how we feel in a month. If she really cares, she'll realize she needs to make a choice.
It's no you, she's just no over the first yet.
2007-03-14 21:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost the same exact thing happened with my boyfriend. He talked about his first love when we were going out, and it got me really upset. There were times when he even called her his girlfriend when I obviously was in his life. It takes time to get over your first love. I have been with my boyfriend over a year now, and he hasn't mentioned his ex's name in a long time. It took awhile, and I did question our relationship, but I stuck it out, and now I am happier than I have ever been. Give it a little more time, and if it still persits then I'm afraid you may have to let her go.
2007-03-14 21:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!! Don't leave her just because she has some memories with her first love. It is only natural. It doesn't neccessarily mean that she wants to be with him, its just that she will always care about him because alas he was her first. The same will happen to you too, you will never truly move on from your first. Give it some time, and let her know how you feel. I know that she will tell you that she cares about you and loves you and that you have nothing to fear, and make sure you allow yourself to believe her.
2007-03-14 21:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by natasha_randle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never forget your first love - but, she should know that it isn't proper to be discussing ex's all the time when in a relationship. Talk to her about how you feel and how it makes you uncomfortable when she talks about her ex. Let her know you love her and want to be with her, and look forward to making memories with her and having fun. Just let her know that while you value her feelings, you don't want to hear about the ex.
If you think she isn't over him yet then you could also bring that up to her.
2007-03-14 21:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, it seems like she just treats you like a friend. If you don't want to be with her, then break it off before either of you hurts the other. But if you want want to give it a chance, then do so. Or you can talk to her about not talking about her first love around you, because that makes you uncomfortable.
Hope it works out!
2007-03-14 21:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by Wishie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might loved him at the past. But future is in your hands. Cause only the feeling that she had will be over in a while and if you let go...you will lose her forever.
2007-03-14 21:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate~bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyone could give someone love, but only one is the 1st love, she hasn't forgetted of her 1st love, talk her tell her how does this makes u feel
2007-03-14 21:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she wants to get over her ex but she cant.
i suggest talking to her about this & find out if she still has major feelings for her exboyfriend.
2007-03-14 21:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋