Is there someone in your past, an ex partner, that you will always have somewhere in your mind? There'll be a song that will remind you of them and the good times you had?
I'm speaking from experience here. I have an ex and I always wonder "What if?". What if I'd done this where would we be now?
Am I making sense? Am I on my own? Talk to me peeps.
2007-03-14 13:59:47 · 26 answers · asked by chris0072k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not alone. I'm sure there are millions feeling the same way you do.
2007-03-14 14:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And more than just one. There is the one that I broke up with because we were becoming too close too fast too young (and that's the ONLY reason I broke up with her) before finding the one that I still feel I had much more in common with, but broke up with because I had way too many plans already made and close to being etched in stone about goals that I needed to accomplish before settling down, and I did NOT feel that anyone I loved should HAVE to wait for me to come back to her before she should be permitted to see if she could find someone with whom she would feel more compatible than me.
Then there's the one who I knew didn't share the same goals as I did from almost the moment we met, but was (and probably is) the most generous, caring, and energetic person in my life (and not to mention drop-dead gorgeous), so I broke it off with her, too.
Then of course is my ex wife, the mother to my children, with whom I had many a good time, but the bad times wound up outweighing the good.
There isn't a day that goes by since my divorce that I don't wonder what if about all three of the others.
2007-03-14 23:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty self-reliant to me. I have that someone special still in my life. I just gave him a hug before he retired across the hall. I met him when I was sixteen and we have been together for over forty-seven years. I am sixty-three and he is eighty-five, so that "someone from my past" is very much with me still and I feel so fortunate words fail me.
The one thing you did not say is whether you are now married. If you are single, perhaps you could find your old flame and rekindle an old romance. That might be a nice way to go into Spring this year. Best to you, always. Chris!
2007-03-14 22:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely not alone. I think most people at some point in their life will meet someone who will remain in their memory forever. The special bond with that person is so deep that at the most unexpected moements (favourite song playing in a cafe, someone telling the same silly joke that they once told you, rain falling lightly on you and you remember the first time they kissed you) can mean so much more... only because of what you shared with that person was painfully beautiful.
2007-03-14 21:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by silent_tears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex she & her son are even in my will LOL. We were best friends even after she hurt me but then she started talking about being friends again & how lonely she was & how off track & unhappy she was & so I tried to change that even just once in a while & I guess I tried to hard & she bailed without even a goodbye so who knows.. I hope she finds what ever will make her happy....
BTW I've done the bloody mary thing & the Candyman thing & I'm still here :).
2007-03-14 21:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by mas8baller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I used to keep my first love in my heart and wondered if I'd be happy to go back with him. In our early twenties, we actually did get back together but it was not the same as our teenage years. We had changed but were trying to hang on to our memories from younger days and sometimes memories are better off kept just that...as memories. Time and maturity changes people. Maybe it works out for some people to reunite with an old flame, but for me...it was not what I had hoped it would be.
As for now...I don't hold anyone special in my heart. I have no longings for anyone from my past. I am recently divorced and I do not have in the back of my mind any sort of hopes of returning to my ex-husband...but of all the people in my past, I would say he was the most special. He's a good person but we did not belong together for various reasons. But this doesn't mean I "long" for him. I just respect him and our memories. Just because you choose to move forward with your life doesn't mean your past meant "nothing". We all learn from our past (hopefully) and I often reflect back on certain people and situations or relationships from my past over my entire life. I think it's good to remember things because we continue to learn and grow personally if we think about things and don't just block them out and try to forget about them or replace the memories with new ones. If you have longings for someone in your past and you are with a new spouse...you really need to deal with those feelings and realize that things aren't always what they were in younger days.
2007-03-14 21:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by BRAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not on your own. i feel the same way. me & my ex were together for a while and i always wonder what if . looking back, i relaize that i had made mistakes i wish i could change, knowing that now its too late. everytime i hear "our song" on the radio it brings back memories and many things remind me of him. im trying to move on, knowing that that is the past, and now were in the future. good luck
2007-03-14 21:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by imissy0u* ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you mention it, yes! He wasn't an ex, he was just a boy I hung out with. Both our parents knew each other. But we weren't "good" friends. He and this other boy locked me in the bathroom, alone, trying to force me to do the bloody mary thing in the mirror.
We've been together for 4 years, since 2003. we met at his auntie's house warming. We plan to marry after I graduate from nursing!
2007-03-14 21:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an incredibly special someone from my past, he's my best mate, flat mate, live in cook & common sense guide & the "what if" is my nightly dreams.
He was my 1st boyf & 1st lover. I was 16. I am now a lot older & have since had 3 other relationships
2007-03-14 21:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people have that special someone from their past whether they acknowledge it or not.
I have a special someone who I haven't seen in years. She was very special and I still miss her sometimes.
Our song was Dreams by the Cranberries. It's kind of corny but we had a very wierd moment once when that song was playing.
I wonder "what if" sometimes too...
2007-03-14 21:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by greenfan109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time I pass an open field I think of him..... the happy times we spent running through the grass - falling down in a mass of happiness and running my fingers through his hair..... oh how I miss my ex's dog!!!
sorry got carried away there - to answer your question - no I have no ex that I think that fondly off!
xx
2007-03-15 10:12:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋