Too busy to love?

Question

As a single father of , I find it hard to let people in.
Then a girl comes along who wants to join the union of my family with her 7 year old son .
Who I like but not sure I can love.
Do I let her in, on the chance that my feelings might grow or hold back from any commitment, until I know for sure I can love this women.

Answer 1

im looking at it like. wow. thats deep. is she hot because if all else fails at least you got that. hmmm do you want to be around more people everyday? write out a list of all the good and all the bad. which is more. keep seperate bank accounts. some people would really want a women who is pursueing things. then again what are her true intentions? does she already have money? does she work? car paid for? hidden med bills? hair done nails done makeup? dresses? is she feminine? did you make sure shes female? these are things im thinking. if you are not very sexusaly active and dont want to be then maybe moving in together is not good? in the end it seems time will tell. and no matter what shell be there for you if she does care and want you like she says she does.

Answer 2

well it is always hard as a single parent, we try and protect our children from hurt and pain in life, particularly if they have been hurt before,(am assuming this is the case) You ask whether or not you should wait untill you are sure you can love this woman, you need to assess what it is you feel, are you scared to let your barriers down for the same reason? or are you just not in love with her? love grows over time but you have to haave the basics there first and if you are unsure of your feelings then take things slowly for now and dont let her move in and become part of your family just yet, it will be harder for all of you as you not only risk your childs security but her sons aswell, i am sure she is as worried as you are but women seem to know their felings quicker than men and she clearly loves you to want to make a go of things and unite your two families,however as i say if you have doubts then just put the brakes on for now, carry on dating and getting to know her son and vice versa arrange family days out and perhaps the odd night to stop at each others houses, if you love her you will know when it is the right time and if she loves you she will be happy to slow the process down, we all have to take risks in life and we learn from the experiences and carry them with us throughout our life and it is what makes us stronger, good luck with whatever you decide you are a role model for single fathers just by asking the question you are putting your child first, i wish you well and hope you find that happiness

Answer 3

It's true that you might not be 100% compatible with this woman, and it's true that you might get close to her and end up not loving her. BUT... She might be just as amazing as you think she is, and she might also be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Love is a most unpredictable thing but the possible rewards make the risk all worth while.

Answer 4

I think if you are asking there must be something there.

Love takes a bit of time to grow, so I would suggest that you take it a step at a time & don't be forced into a situation until you are ready.

Answer 5

You have to hold back in this day and age with all the sickos and weirdos out there. With the fact that you both have children, you have no choice but to take it slow.