My boyfriend isn't treating me like he really cares about me. He's always being rude to me and acting like he likes my friends more then me. He hits me all the time too. All of my friends have told me to break up with him, but I really don't want to. We have been together for 10 months. What do you think I should do???
2007-03-14 13:57:47 · 39 answers · asked by ~~leader of the bad girlz~~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something you should bring up to him. Its always hard to bring things like this up in conversation, but it is NEEDED when it comes to these kind of things. Ask him if he still wants to be with you, ask him if he likes your friends more. Tell him how you feel about him hitting you (which you made it sound almost abusive, which is BAD!!). Just talk with him, and ask all the questions you NEED and WANT to know. Youll learn alot more from him than you will from us on Yahoo.
-Brandon-
2007-03-14 14:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb and don't look back. I don't understand why you are reluctant to do so. If you enjoy being treated rudely and hit, then why are you even asking people what you should do with the relationship? I've been down this road before myself so I can tell you that guys like this never change. If you want to stay with him, YOU will have to do the changing. How? By learning to accept whatever mood he's in, whatever he says or does and not complain about it. Neither this guy nor any guy will ever treat you better than you treat yourself and your willingness to stay with him when you knocks you around all the time lets him that despite what you may say, it's okay. Honey, you've got to learn to love YOURSELF more! You absolutely do not deserve to be treated this way, but that's a choice you have to make for yourself.
2007-03-14 14:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you punishing yourself? Obviously there is a very real reason that you are subjecting yourself to abuse. Of corse you should leave him. You're only two options are leave or abuse.
Do you think he's really going to change? It's possible, but it will take a lot, lot, lot of work and time on his part with a professional. Until then what else can you expect other than more of the same? What do you want to hear? A way to fix it? There is nothing you can do to make him change. h ehas to want that. All you can do is keep getting abused or get away from him.
2007-03-14 14:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship..you already gave him 10 months and since he hasnt changed in that time he isnt going to change anytime soon.You'll be better off finding somone who will treat you right. And even if it takes you a while to find that new someone at least being single is better than being in an abusive relationship.
2007-03-14 14:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, absolutely. What good can come from someone who doesn't treat you with respect, doesn't act like they are about you, is physically (and perhaps emotionally) violent. You aren't going to have a happy marriage with someone is like this. Get out of the relationship now so you dont have to after a 4 year marriage. Listen to your friends, Listen to me. Listen to what your brain is telling you. Leave him and find a man who will love you, respect you, and care for you. No one else is going to demand that people treat you with respect and love you.
2007-03-14 14:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the flick! Ive been through a divorce due to verbal abuse, yet physical abuse is a whole new ball field. Girl you deserve better and you should be with someone that treats you like a princess if at all treats you how he wants to be treated... Tell him to treat you better or its over, if he truely cares he will try harder, if he doesnt then you know what you need to do ;) Good luck and I know its not easy.
2007-03-14 14:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by mizfordmotorsports 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO you're going to continue taking his abuse because you dont want to??? If you saw someone hit a dog would you just stand there and watch it happen? No! Thats why your friends are telling you to leave him and get out of the relationship. And they are right!! Ive never said that someone should break up with their partner...but in this case you should. You shouldnt have to put up with someone that abuses you. You deserve someone way better. Good luck!
2007-03-14 14:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all due respect even though you won't like it...
You need to get some self-respect. You need to know that you deserve being treated better than this, and you need to more than know it, you need to believe it.
You know...you don't deserve to be hit, I promise you, and so I don't want you to think you are asking for it...but I personally believe that people are drawn to mates that see them the way they see themselves. So somewhere inside yourself, I think you are drawn to people who are abusive, people who do not value you because you do not value yourself.
You need to stand tall baby, and realize you are better than this. Of course, I could say that alllll day and you wouldn't believe it just because I said so. But I hope and pray that you can find peace with yourself soon. That is when you will have zero trouble cutting your losses with this guy, forgiving him for hurting you, forgiving yourself for wasting your time, and find someone who treats you like you hung the moon.
2007-03-14 14:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally and physically abusive and you don't want to break up with him! You deserve better. Get to know yourself and find out why you are attracting this kind of abuse. Check out the sites for abuse. Your friends are right! Good luck but, don't let another day go by with this horrible man's treatment.
2007-03-14 14:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him. If he hits you all the time, then why would you want to live like that?
2007-03-14 14:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋