What is the best way - proper AND effective - in letting our guests know that our wedding is an Adults-Only (no children) in our invitations? I want to be proper but also ensure all the guests understand that our ceremony and reception will be for adults only.
2007-03-14 13:54:00 · 12 answers · asked by Princess K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For the person who felt that "buying a gift AND paying $50 for a babysister is rude", take a look at yourself!!!! This is the one day that a couple wish to express love with their close family and friends and make it the most memorable day of their lives. The couple pays for your dish.. I find it outrageous to ask the couple to pay for your kids' dishes. If one cannot respect the wishes of the couple to be a romantic and intimate setting without kids, then that person should certainly stay home with the kids and send a card.
I find it appropriate to address the envelopes to the person(s) invited specfically and to leave off "And guest". If a friend is dating someone seriously, they will tell you his or her name for you to include it on the invite. There is no reason to put "and guest". If someone RSVPs incorrectly, you should contact them directly with the response of your wishes. The bill comes to you.. and ultimately this is YOUR day.
2007-03-15 07:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by PaiGowAddict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can of course write something like "adults only " on your invitation, but etiquette says ( and I followed it for my own wedding because afterall my guests were reasonably intelligent people) you should address the invitation to only the parents.
Invitiations addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Tom Smith and Family, or Tom, Joan, and Eric Smith are pretty clear that the kids are invited. Most wedding planners advise that the reverse is also true and that by the time you've gone through the numerous pre-wedding events (showers, dinners, etc.), the word has gotten out about your desire to have an adults-only reception.
2007-03-14 21:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by KT Richter 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand! I am having an adult only ceremony, kinda. I am only having children that are relatives over the age of 10. The 10 yr olds are both girls so they wont act up.
But what I am going to do is NOT on the invitation itself but on the RSVP reception card put **adults only** at the bottom of the card where it has a place for people to enter their dinner preferences or how many people are attending. That is what i am going to do. You dont want to put "adults only" on the invitation part.
2007-03-14 21:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I just want to say that as an adult with children..I would not attend a wedding that did not invite my entire family. Have you thought about the fact that not only do they have to buy you a gift now they have to pay $50 for a babysitter. I think it is rude honestly.
2007-03-15 08:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply state that the ceremony and reception are adults only. There is nothing wrong with being blunt about it. You should take into consideration that some people may bring their teen children who they consider to be mature or adult enough to attend, so if you don't want any minors there then you may want to be very specific on your invitations.
2007-03-14 20:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is improper to put "Adult Reception" or "No Children" or any such message in any of your invitation items. A proper invitation mentions who is invited, NOT who isn't.
If the person's NAME is not on the envelope, they are not invited. That goes for children OR adults. If people do not understand that basic etiquette rule, then when they RSVP with spots for their kids you simply have to phone them and tactfully explain that they must have misunderstood.
You can also help stamp out these misunderstandings by never using "and Guest" or "and Family" on invitations to anything. Invitations are supposed to be for specific people who are named on the envelope. They are not transferrable; they are not "slots" to be filled with interested people.
2007-03-14 21:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Our ceremony was at the hotel we got married in, so we just added the line "An Adult reception will immediately follow" after all the information about the location of the wedding.
2007-03-14 21:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is obviously no "proper" way to do this, because it is extremely rude and tacky. Children are an integral part of our lives and need to attend social events, such as wedding, with their families. I suggest you not do what you are proposing. This has been covered lots of times on this site!
2007-03-15 07:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should put adult reception to follow because some people will get rid of the envelope and THEN SAY THEY DIDN'T REMEMBER WHO IT WAS ADDRESSED TO, they will definatelyl know it is no kids this way. Some will still brings kids though!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-14 21:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by dpascoe8692 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've seen invitations where it actually says "Please join us for an adult-only reception"
Also, address the invitations to the parents not the family.
Like Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, not "The Smith Family"
2007-03-14 21:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋