Me and My fiance Are soo inlove were perfectly perfect!
i love himm soo much
But he smokes
and i hate that, i told him im ganna make him stop
he said you can try,and laughed
it really matters to me !
i care about his health
serious answers plz.thank you sooo much
2007-03-14 13:49:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reply to some gurl: How am i pushy wen all i care about is him and his health,and i want him to be healthy and not get sick,thats not pushy thats caring,and u wouldnt know about it
2007-03-14 13:55:46 · update #1
Ok. This is an opinion coming from a guy. You need to show him how much you really dont like it and how much you care for him and that youre worried about his health. If he is decent about it, he will honestly consider what you are saying and will more than likely stop. Now, I personally have never smoked, but I know that people have an awfully hard time with it, but this is because others (or themselves) remind them about smoking. So, find a way to take his mind off smoking, like cooking together, or going for a picnic or something. The first goal is to honestly show him how much it matters to you that he should stop smoking, say it blatantly, say it sweetly, anyway you can, just dont yell. The human mind automatically shuts down to ALL options when it thinks it is being criticized. Just be honest, be sincere about it all, let him see how much you really care for him. Hope this helps
-Brandon-
2007-03-14 13:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello,
I know you care. Look you can't make people change addictive habits easy...he must want to quit. OK, you read this throughout the replies...how about you try this as it might be a different approach. Offer him some cigarette filters. The stuff will taste the same to him, but it will take most of the tar and the nicotine with it.
This way you are really telling him you care...slowly, he will not have nicotine in his blood stream and will ease off. That is what I did, and now, I feel like I am wasting my breath when I smoke...
he will start to feel the effect of the filter in about 2-3 days..his throat will clear..etc. The filter is a very small piece of plastic you get it from the smoke shops...it fits at the end of the cigarette and can be used for up to 5 cigarettes, once he sees the nasty stuff that get caught in there, believe me he will think about it for himself....
Good luck ..
2007-03-22 05:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went throught the very same thing with my fiance. He smoked all the time and I hated it. I mean not only was I worried about his health, but I have to kiss him too Yuck!! So what I did was I stopped kissing him when he smoked. I was less affectionate and made him see that when he smoked I didn't want to be around him. Next I did the whole guilt trip thing, and everytime he would smoke I would make him feel really bad. Lastly, I gave him all kinds of facts that I knew were important, like how ciggerettes effect his sexual performance and stuff. Then I just helped him take his mind off wanting a ciggerette by having him eat some candy or doing something else. I also showed how proud I was of him when he went a day without a ciggerette. Rewards are always good motivators. Hope all this helps.
2007-03-14 13:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by natasha_randle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really value your relationship with him then hear this, & hear it well.
You have absolutely no control over him, so YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM STOP!
He will stop only when HE is ready to stop, & not one minute sooner.
Don't get me wrong here, I am not a big fan of smoking either, but you need to realize that the smoking habit is one of the most difficult addictions to quit.
The most important part of my message is this. The only person you have any control over is YOU.
Only you control your destiny. So don't go thinking that you are destined to live out your life with a choking smoker if he doesn't see the light & quit.
You do have a choice here just like he does.
If living out your life with a smoker doesn't appeal to you then there is one thing that you CAN do. That is to end the relationship with him, & tell him that he can look you up when he is done with his love affair with the cancer sticks.
Maybe by then you will still be available, & then again you may not.
It's up to you. ;-)
2007-03-14 14:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was a smoker since you first met him, why did you commit to him in the first place.. Always think first that you fell in love with him for what he is, and not what you want him to be.. You can't try to change a person even if you say you're concerned with his health or what not.. You're not concerned with his health, you're just annoyed with the smell of cigarette smoke.. If you really love him offer him things that will make him quit, like a nicotine candy or nicotine patch.. Or a wild night in bed if he didn't get to smoke at all in a day(LoL).. Do not force him to quit, give him reasons why he should quit..
2007-03-14 13:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by I_fell_in_love_with_a_Pussycat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him u care about his health and want u 2 2 be 2gether 4-ever
2007-03-22 09:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honeslty, every guy who I meet who's asked me out/attempted a relationship with me dropped smoking then and there. I will give you an example. My long term korean boyfriend from Korea on our first date instead of smoking or anything pointed at a smoker and said "What do you think of smoking" I said "Eiiiw I don't like smoking or smokers" And he NEVER smoked from that moment ON even though YEAH he was a smoker. That's what a relationship is all about.
2007-03-14 13:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear xoprecio:
Certainly there must be something that you like equally as much so why not say to him that because of the love that you have for him you would be willing, if he is willing, to give your vice up so that you both could have a longer and healthier life.
PS. When doing this be alone without distractions and be sincere.
Best wishes,
2007-03-14 13:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love him so much then you'll learn to accept the fact that he is smoking.. But if he loves you so much more then he should be thinking about going cold turkey because he'd realize that he wants to live a longer life with you and for you(and your future family) :)
2007-03-21 23:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by khatzzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking is an addiction just like any other addiction. It won't get you arrested, but it's very difficult to quit and it will eventually kill you. It's good that you care about his health and want him to quit, but unfortunately unless HE cares about his health and wants to quit, your efforts will be wasted. You might want to check out the American Lung Association's website and see if they have any tips on how to convince someone to quit smoking. Good luck!
2007-03-14 13:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋