My 15 year old step brother, Bobby (not his real name) was hospitalized last night for the second time in 1 month for threatning suicide. It happens everytime his mom calls him, which is about once everymonth. His mom abandoned him and won't tell him where she lives or even her phone number (she owes child support) and this has really messed him up emotionally. I do not live with them, I am married and in my own house, but I talk to my mom almost daily and she fills me in. My 7 year old brother, who is also Bobby's step sibling, lives in the house and I am concerned about how he deals with this. What can I do, as a step sister who cares about him? what can I do to help him get stable?
2007-03-14 13:25:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is just as concerned for my step brother as I am. He is a good kid, but he is always spaced out. His teachers at school ordered a drug test for him (which he passed) because he always acts high. My mom and step dad don't want to deny his mom from him because he loves her and he might resent them if they deny him the little contact he has with her.
My mom told me last night, when he talked to his mom, before all of this happened, he just kept saying over and over again, "I love you mom"
2007-03-14 13:59:36 · update #1
Well--you can continue to be a loving caring presence in his life-that is all--it seems that he is getting adequate care--he is hospitalized for suicidal thoughts, etc..so people are aware of what is gong on with him--If he is able to--he should defintely get counseling...perhaps he is already getting this--Obviously his relationship with his mother has really affected him--and she is a really negative influence in his life--If there is any way you can discourage him from talking to her--that would be good..but you cannot control that--if you are religious you can pray for him-otherwise--wow--the situation is tough--it is hard watching loved ones go through difficult times--You could perhaps talk to him on a regular basis to help him realize that he does have loving people in his life--that he is not abandoned by everyone...
Again--just discourage his talks with his mother and try to talk to him as much as possible...Good Luck...
2007-03-14 14:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think who ever your step brother is living with should stop receiving calls from his mom. If this happens evey time she calls, it could be that she is telling him things that is getting him upset to which he then can't control himself and that leads to another attempt for suicide. If your mom knows that this woman is causing him to feel like this, then she should put a stop to her calls, like changing the phone number.
There is nothing you can do, but to visit him and be there for him. The person or people that need to take care of this matter are your parents. They are the ones that need to make sure that this doesn't happen again. They probably should admit him to see a counselor or a family doctor that can help him.
Your step-brother needs all the love he can get from his parents, you and who ever lives there. I would be concerned for the young sibling living there as well. Don't worry too much about his well being, you have your husband to be with now, and for you having all that hurt feelings, it is not fair to your husband for seeing you like that all the time. That's why your parents are there to take care of your step-brother and you only can do so much to help them.
2007-03-14 20:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get that boy involved in youth group with a good active church. Let the youth pastor know and watch them build him up. The postive environment will only improve things for him and give him hope.
If the mom does not have legal rights to the child - CHANGE THE NUMBER - what's up with your parents.
Counseling too.
Drugs are not going to fix a heart ache issue.
Only God can do that to be honest. I have seen him do it. I have seen kids literally turn around the opposite way and recover fully to be productive adults. It can help your brother.
Can't hurt to try a non-drug, non-invasive approach.
2007-03-14 20:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear this but i would love to know just wat she says to him because those phone calls from his mum dont sound healthy. He is trying to convince himself that he loves his mum which tells me that the phone calls arent good she is screwing with his head.
2007-03-14 21:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋