i need some help getting confidence?

Question

mainly when talking to guys. i always get shy and i want it to stop, help!

Answer 1

I am that way too, I guess that I am traditional and prefer the guy to approach me first I think that I would still be nervous but not as nervous because it is not me initiating anything. You can try role playing with someone else or even by yourself to ease some discomfort, maybe thinking about questions and answers you could possibly give. Getting nervous, and having anxiety especially when talking to the opposite sex is not easy for everyone remember at times they are just as nervous with the same sweaty palms and fast heart rate. Make sure that you show confidence and I cannot tell you how to have confidence because confidence will come as you have more experiences with guys especially when conversing with them. Try to find a common ground a topic that you are comfortable with, this may prevent you from stumbling over words and feeling tense and embarrassed. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

try to act like when you're around your friends, like usual.
practice talking to your brother and ask him what does he think about the way you talk to boys.
if you don't have a brother, try to talk to your guy friends.
practice talking alone in room.
be yourself.

Answer 3

i have the same problem