i was wondering if theres any ways i can loosen up my strict parents! my dad is never home b/c he travels alot and when i ask him if i can go places he usually lets me but he's very strict like doesn't let me sleepover friend's houses and doesn't really let me hang out w. friends alot. my mom is also the same cept she says NO to everything. we moved last year and i can't always see my old friends that often and when i do have time, my mom doesn't let me and says i dont need to always hang out. why are they liek that? the most aggravating thing is i can never stay out late becus i need to get a ride w. my mom in order to go home. and they never let me go to sleepovers.. i'm in highschool and i feel that i should have more freedom. i'm a good kid and when i ask my mom why cant i sleepover she never answers me b/c she doesn't have a reason she just says NO to everyuthing...how do i make them loosen up and stop being so protective?
p.s. i'm an only child..so that might explain alot.
2007-03-14 13:01:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
how old are you
2007-03-14 13:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make them loosen up. But you can gain their trust by not fighting with them over this issue and show that you can be responsible in every other way.
Eventually, you will be at college (being an only child, they will really care that you continue your education, I would think). That is a few short short years away, and college, my friend, is a wild wild place.
You will survive this. Don't make it an issue right now and your relationship with your parents will be all the better for it.
2007-03-18 15:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this, GET OVER IT. Your parents are only looking out for you. Do you know what is going on in the world today?I had an older sister growing up and that didn't matter to my parents. I am thirty now and still have not had the experience of sleeping over at a friend's house.
Try and understand them and see that they are only trying to protect you.
You could try and talk to them about it.
When you get older you will look back and thank them. I know I have thanked my parents.
2007-03-14 21:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what your parents are just protecting you.You may not understand now but when you get older you will appreciate them....My parents were the same way and I was disgusted that I was missing out on all of the fun! But when I got older i heard horror stories from my friends. Some were molested, some got into things like drugs, alcohol, some got pregnant. Believe me you are not missing anything it may seem like you are but you are not.......Just obey your parents and you will be blessed for it in the long run.......Believe me a lot of people probably wish they had parents like yours to protect them.
2007-03-14 20:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents just want to protect you from things like rape, street-criminality, drugs - they just don't want you to get into trouble. I admit, they're a bit on the strict side, though, but they don't do it because they want to ruin your life - they do it because they love you!
An example: It's common here to allow young children (from 4 years up) to roam around on the street without parental supervision. I don't allow this to my 6y/o, though she'd love it. She thought, that I want to spoil the fun for her, until I explained her, why I don't allow it (that there are adults in this world, who'll do very bad things to kids). She still would love to roam the streets with her friends, but she understands my reason behind the "No" now.
You could sit down with your parents and ask them: "I feel, you're somewhat strict with me, but would like to know the reasons behind it, so I can understand it better."
It will show them that you take their concerns seriously - pouting won't help you. But if you discuss the issue with your parents in a grown up way, they'll likely loosen up a bit.
Oh, and don't sneak behind their back - parents somehow always find out if you do that, that makes them only stricter, because they don't trust you. Obey their rules, but talk with them in a grown up way to give you more freedom.
Good Luck!
2007-03-15 05:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chevrolet*Blazer*Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call that strict. My kids are spanked if they talk back, disobey or anything for that matter. I allow my kids to have friends over but only if they have made it a day without a strapping. Don't worry about it
2007-03-14 20:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u cant change parents but u can try to persuade sweetly
2007-03-14 20:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by an unknown friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋