I'm thinking about having a baby with my current boyfriend, he wants to have kids to, he said he's ready when ever i am.
2007-03-14 12:57:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Babies need TWO parents. I think you 2 should wait until you're financially and emotionally stable enough to have and raise a child, and you should be married for a while first.
Being a mother is the most heart-wrenching, wonderful feeling in the world, and there's nothing like seeing them big eyes staring up you, and little drooly-lips begging for a cookie!
2007-03-14 13:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is amazing and wonderful..........but you HAVE to be ready, or it will drive you up a wall.
I have an 11 month old with some health issues. we have some bad nights and things get stressful sometimes. But it does not bother me at all when she looks up at me with those huge brown eyes like I am the most important thing in the world to her. Since the day she could talk her favorite word is ma-ma........and when she is sick, there is NO other word in her vocabulary.........I am her world and I love her so much it scares the hell out of me........
BUT.......
I am very happily married to a wonderful man. he helps with whatever I need him to. I have a professional career with sick days and vacation days and other perks......if we have a bad night, I can come in a little late or take a day off if I need to. I can take vacations with my husband and baby, and we are so financially set with both of us working that even those "unexpected emergencies" are easily handled.
My stable life makes it SO much easier to be a good mom. I know that things would be so hard and so stressful if I was not married to my husband and if we did not have the 2 incomes. being a mom is a wonderful and fulfilling thing.......but only if you are really ready.
2007-03-14 22:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do have a child, be ready first to make this an 18 yr. committment to the child (plus 9 mos. pregnancy). For me, personally, it is fabulous! The first year goes by so quickly. It is a tiring job, at first, at least. You start off with this little cute one who is so totally dependant on you for everything, letting (it's best) the baby set it's feeding schedule, even every two hours, first growth spurt at 3 wks., my son ate every hour. Sometimes got to sleep four hours at a time. Once that passes, as they work on becoming more independant, you really have to watch them. Then comes school, kindergarten, picture day the first day for moms and dads taking pics of thier child, first day in a classroom. They keep growing, needing clothes, and no matter what, unconditional love from mom and dad. Then, having their friends over after school, snacks, homework, routine of bedtime, etc. Then, they have/bf/gf matters, and then graduation! Then decisions, college, work, or what? College-community, nearby live with mom and dad, or university, depending on where, move to the dorm, etc. Or work, live at home, pay room and board till moeny saved up to move out, etc. It all goes by quickly. It doesn't seem like it at times, but it does. It is work, and it is lots of fun! Take care.
2007-03-14 20:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is like being a teacher. You have to be a good role model. Children learn what they live. You need to be stable tho. Have everything done what you wanna do. Meaning school. Children tie you down, your life will completely change. Not that it is a bad thing but just make sure your ready. Otherwise being a mommy is great.
2007-03-14 20:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Latintweety 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babies need loving supportive people around them..not necessarily parents, unlike some other opinions on thsi board. However what is being a mom like. It's like your worst nightmare and your sweetest dream rolled into one. It is a dark stormy night with silver lined clouds it is to quote Charles Dickens "the best of times, the worst of times"
2007-03-14 20:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the most wonderful thing in the world. It is also stressful and sometimes even strange, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. When you are ready you will just know. But, if you both want kids, you should consider marriage first.
2007-03-14 20:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by KC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's wonderful, it's great...but it's work, and it's constant- there are no coffee breaks..you're always "on"- and speaking as a mother of three whose kids just had the stomach flu- it can sometimes suck like a big bucket of ticks. Kids give you the highest highs- but also the lowest lows...babies test your ability to function without sleep- kids test your ability to make wise decisions, and teenagers test your ability to remain sane...vomit tests all three
2007-03-14 20:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you ready to give up going out ?
having no time for your self or your b/f?
dirty dipers ?
everyone telling you how to take care of your baby and telling you your doing it wrong ?
to have your mother and your b/f's mother over at your house all the time ?
2007-03-14 20:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing that can ever happen to you, it is fascinating, and emotional, i have three and there are no words to describe being a mother accurately, good luck
2007-03-14 20:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its wonderful, scarey, stressful & sometimes yucky... But, I wouldnt trade it for anything in the world!
2007-03-14 20:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by east2west92 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋