ok my boyfriends mom is always around. We live in our own place and she never takes the hint that she needs to leave. One night she came barging into are bedroom while we were doing it. What are suppose to do about her?
2007-03-14 12:57:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've been in a similiar situation. My finance's mom lived with us for about 8 months and she was around alot. Never walked in on us having sex tho, but it does get frustrating after awhile. Just make time for her
2007-03-14 13:23:02
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I think that you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend and tell him thats she is really starting to bother you. Its not cool that she is envading yalls personal space and the bedroom is deffinately personal space. If your boyfriend does not man up to his mother then I think that you need to take matters into your own hands. I think that you should talk to her and let her know that it is bothering you. Set some ground rules/ Because its not only his home but yours as well and any home that you are made feel uncomfortable in is not a home. Just talk calmly to your boyfriend and if that doesnt work talk to the mother. If she does not respect how you feel then you have a serious problem on your hands. Be consistent with her though. Anything that bothers you that she does MAKE IT KNOWN. You are not a door mat and obvioulsy her little boy is grown up or he wouldnt have moved away from home. Good luck and dont give up.
2007-03-14 21:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock your door. Does she have a key? If so you should get that back. Put time limits on things. If she is coming over have something "planned" an hour or two after she gets there so she has to leave. If she doesn't take a hint then you need to be straight forward in a kind way. Mom, we have plans that we need to take care of. It was great visiting with you. See you next time.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 20:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start inviting her over for dinner or just to hang out this way she feels like she doesnt have to invite herself ALL THE TIME!!! Take it as a compliment that she wants to be with you so much but also let her know that there are boundries, such as she can not just barge into your bedroom, she must knock first. She might be angry with you at first but it does sound like she loves you both very much so she'll get over it! God Bless You and I hope this works!
2007-03-14 20:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs to tell her that while you guys enjoy your time with her, she needs to realize that you guys need your own time alone. You also might wanna get a lock on your bedroom door for when she is there.
2007-03-14 20:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a tough one!! The only way you can get rid off her is by telling her straight up how that bothers you!! But try not to be hurtfull because once her feelings ar hurt then she will be around you even more and you really don't want that!!
2007-03-14 20:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your man to talk to her and say that you guys need your space. If she wants to come over she should call first and ask. Your man should stand up to mom. If she doesn't respect your wishes you and your bf should cut her off till she is willing. Best of Luck!
2007-03-15 14:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well who lets her in the house change your locks and pretend your not in the next time she comes calling keep your doors locked go over to her place if she's at yours tell her to go away you need time by yourselves.
2007-03-15 08:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about on of those lock latches for the door the kind you lock and dont need a key for.. also you can get one for the bedroom.. and maybe your bf could tell her your bedtime so he wont come around then..
2007-03-14 21:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to handle this. Never get between a man and his mother!
2007-03-14 20:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋