Difficult dad... Helped him and now he's acting like a 2yr old?

Question

My dad was not around growing up. He moved back around us a few months ago. He didn't help when we grew up and when he moved up here I helped him get a place and a part time cushy job. Now he is unemployed except the part time job I got him and one my friend got him. The problem is he is now being a d&4#head. I am stumped on how to deal with him. The problem is I am the manager of where we live and he is the maintenance man and now he is trying to get me fired from that. I am a single parent and that job is helping me alot. His current wife is now pregnant also. They are in their early 40's. Anytime I try to talk tohim he get upsets and starts overracting and yelling. Example is I went and got my extra key from his house yesterday and he got upset and said "fine as soon as I get a job I'll pay you back then I'm moving." I didn't ask about any money or nothing I just planned on writing it off. I am wishing he mves just so I don't have to deal with his temper tantrums. Help Please.

Answer 1

He's your dad, but he's not working out.

Either he shapes up, or fire him. Tell him it's not personal, but you must protect your own children first, which he should CERTAINLY understand.

Answer 2

Having a baby in your 40s isnt an easy thing to deal with i would say he is feeling the pinch dont go giving up on your dad. Maybe u could go out somewhere as a family away from your work life. Try to get some father daughter relationship going.

Answer 3

Been there in similar ways.
Try this - hard as it will be, look at things from his perspective.
I am sure he never in his life thought he would come back to the kids he left behind to help him. That's gotta hurt.
Maybe you should try taking him out for coffee and just talk.
Let him really speak freely and don't be offended. Hear what he has to say but he should agree also to hear you and be polite, loving, encouraging. Break him down with kindness and don't ever let him see he's getting to you.
Soon he will realize what a doofas he's being and will melt some.
I lost my dad last year. He was alot like yours. He was there - drunk but there so I understand.
If you go to church - pray on it. If you don't go to church, find one, get plugged in and get their support. It's invaluable and the family you gain there makes it easier to deal with dad and helps also with being a single mom. It's a great support network.

Answer 4

get him another job and from what he says, he'll move on!! with the him trying to get you fired, ignore him, be great at your job and don't ***** about it! Negativity breeds so stay on the bright side. things will get better and hopefully it'll get to a point (maybe once their ababy is born) when he won't have the time or inclination to give you crap. most people who act that way just want a re-action. don't give him one!!

i know cos he's your father you may feel some responsibility in trying to keep a relationship going but you don't need to if you don't want to. especially when you're being treated like this.

Answer 5

well im sorta having that problem right now. my dad gets mad for lots of little things. he also tends to throw fits at me my sister and mom! what we do is just ignore him. we do this so he can know that were mad at him and his temper goes down back to happy cuz he dosent like us to be mad at him! so try ignoring him and hell the point that ur mad at him and he might be better and he might feel that he needs to take care of u and that he need a job! hope this helps!

Answer 6

Pack his stuff and take him to a shelter home.Tell him when he grows up he can get a job and a place of his own and support the baby he has recently made.

Answer 7

Based on what you write, your Dad sounds like a first-class loser. Get him out of your life.