so i've been dating this guy for four years. when we first met, it was butterflies, and all that gooey stuff" anyways we've been rocky, back and forth, and we are now together again, but i dont have those feelings anymore. I care about him yes. and I dont know if I love him. So my question is....what are some signs that tells me I love him. He is a prince to me....yet I am finding myself pondering this question....do I love him....or not? Also i am not a touchy feely kind of girl with him, i've never been. How do i become more loving when we watch a movie or even kissing him....
2007-03-14 12:45:37 · 16 answers · asked by Naky247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is it also because we've been together for a bit...that those sparks just faded?
2007-03-14 12:50:13 · update #1
if you have to ask...you don't love him
2007-03-14 12:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by coconuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a tricky thing....the sparks should never fade. Changes happen as a relationship grows but there should be new sparks there. New ways that you guys make each other feel good. And when the right guy comes along you won't have to worry about being too touchy feely or not enough, it'll just come naturally.
2007-03-14 19:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by bluemnm458 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen the answer to your question is a bit confusing but bide with me if you are as a non-touchy feeling type of girl you say you are then one of the reason for that lost of spark between you guys. it have gone because of that. TIP! men like to be right, they like when women tells them everything and they also like it when you asked them something you don't know or pretend you don't know. My advise to see if you really have feelings for him is to trust him to tell him your personal problems (considering the fact you two known each other for four years) be more open with him see how he reacts and if he lead on that he don't care then that's a sign that you don't think you love him cause your not to sure if he truly loves you if he does show concern then don't let that man go he must really love you and another, is probably your scared, that could explain the "rocky, back and forth" language, is because your scared of something or someone try to figure whats scaring you and work it out.
if nothing here did not gave you the answer you were looking for or it wasn't as much as a great advice to you. sorry.
2007-03-14 20:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my ex-wife for 4-5 years before getting married. We broke up a few times before we got married. We were married a year before she called it quits. She told me that she just didn't feel the bond anymore. This sounds similar to what you're going through. It's best to end it and move on. Maybe as some point in a year or two you might get back together, but as for now, break it off and go out with friends or other guys for a while to see what else is out there, there's plenty of people in this world.
2007-03-14 19:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by cobra427jah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to ask myself this question when i was with my ex-boyfriend. I was apparently not really sure if I loved him because I had no real love experience to compare it to. Then I met my new boyfriend and realized that loves not just true in fairy tales. It is a melding of the mind and spirit. When you look into someones eyes and you can see forever that's when you honestly know you love someone and that you feel yourself connecting on every possible level.. Don't waste any more of your time. Look for the ultimate connection.
2007-03-14 19:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by tunafish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know if u love him or not. you get this feeling like he's the most important thing in ur life. and ways to be more touchy feely are just holding his hand, laying on his chest while laying together, rubbing his back, just laying your hand on his leg or arm, and giving hugs. now for kissing put ur hand on the back of his neck or around his waist. those are just a few good luck!!!
2007-03-14 19:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after such a long time its easy to loose the excitment you had... If you are in 30s or something then you should know if he is the ONE ...Depends on your age really. If you are yound and have lot of future in front of you , and you dnt feel like there is anythin new or exciting in your life just lower you relationship to freinship maybe it works for the better.
2007-03-14 19:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Doux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youve been going out for four years then you probably should wait it out. But try bringing up gooey stuff if he doesnt do any of that to you. GOOD LUCK = ]
2007-03-14 19:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by l∑†s p@®†¥ msg me :)=] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your in love...i think u just want 2 be in love and that u are forcing yourself to like him, so that u will love. if u do not love him, then you 2 can still be friends but thats how things are. maybe you need to wait awhile...some ppl break=up and in a couple years they are back 2gether because...maybe it was ment to be =]
2007-03-14 19:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bribri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think that you love him then you don't. You will know when you fall in love with someone. But geez four years it seems like you would know by now!
2007-03-14 19:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by lalalalove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have to ask...
Then no, maybe you just feel sorry for him and that is keeping you with him.
If you are disappointed with this answer then you do love him, aw.
2007-03-14 19:51:23 · answer #11 · answered by Eyerish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋