he said one of his friends said there is a girl on there who likes him... HELP!!! i think its a bad idea... what is the website about??? any info for this mom would be appreciated... im worried about the predators online, especially after watching dateline...
2007-03-14 12:13:58 · 30 answers · asked by kim t 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well myspace is HUGE.. everyone and their momma has an account ( hell my mom has an account ha ha ) its a great way to keep in touch with friends He can make his myspace profile private which makes it to where nobody can view his profile, unless he approves it by knowing his last name!.. you can even go to the extremem to get your own myspace account, and you and him become friends on there and you can view his profile for yourself!! Myspace is really fun I say let him try it out, and if you think he is abusing the privelage then do something about it!
2007-03-14 12:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As a mother I understand where you come from.. if you go to myspace.com you can see that there is a security page and if I am not mistaking you have to be 14 to even have an account. Since everything with the predators on dateline and other things that myspace has gotten in trouble with they have changed there policy. I have a myspace account. I have included a site for you to go and read it is about there security. Also they have a site called trakzor it tracks the people who visit your site. and where they are from.
2007-03-14 16:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by lilbit6996 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay dateline and any other news television show will say all this stuff to make the parents of other teens feel better about themselves. No one "dies" from myspace anymore than they "die" for just signing online. You do have to teach your kids the basics if they are that young. Don't talk to people you don't know. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses. Trust me. One of my cousin's is ten and has a myspace, because his dad has one and can watch over him.
You can make your profile private where your son can only add friends and family he knows. And no one else will be able to see anything. Teach your son how to act online, or keep him off the internet.
People who get killed from myspace (i hate to be harsh but it's the truth) deserve it. They are the stupid naive teenagers who meet someone as soon as they start chatting online. They give out addresses and all. And I say this, because I used to have a friend who would do the exact same thing. Except with AIM. She would randomly im guys and the day she did it, she would meet them the next day. I have had a myspace for like three years and I haven't had any problems. Parents and Television needs to stop blaming Myspace for their teenager's stupidity. There are no more predators on myspace than there are on the internet in general. You don't want to deal with any predators? My suggestion is to stomp on your computer and throw it out the window. The internet is full of them in general.
2007-03-14 15:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not think that myspace is a site for a 12 year old. Yes, you can put his profile on private where you approve anyone who can have access to his site, however, you don't know whose site he is going to!
I have my own myspace, which I absolutely love because I have gotten back in touch with old friends but some of the pages I have run across are not for younger children!! I would recommend using email and the phone.
2007-03-14 14:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Me!! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is a bad move to have him go onto myspace in order to talk to girls. It is setting him up later on for dependency on the internet for validation in his life which is bad. I was raised the old fashioned way and we didn't have myspace when I was younger, so when I liked a girl I simply went up to her and talked to her in person. And from there we talked in person and hung out with each other in person. Online chatting and networking can brew up a lot of drama that your son doesn't need to be exposed to at his age. Say that he is talking to the girl that likes him on myspace, then they get involved in a harmless relationship and further on down the road he checks out her myspace page only to find other boys hitting on her or talking crap about him or whatever. That site is only filled with drama and nonsense, which is why I don't have anything to do with it. If that person is really important to me and I want to talk to them, I will do it in person or at least on the phone.
I think that he should be allowed to use the internet for communication when his is a little bit older and able to make the right decisions on his own. Maybe like when he is in High School and communicating with friends and teachers/co-workers becomes more important. Instead of just chatting online for social reasons.
2007-03-15 13:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Vegas♠Bound 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 12yr old nephew has one, but so does his father so that he can monitor it at any time. Explain to him why he shouldn't talk to strangers whether on the street or on the internet, it's the same thing. It's kind of like living in a big city and all the other kids are outside and yours can't play. There are tons of bad places they could go nearby, but they know they are only allowed to play in one area under supervision. It's the same with the internet. Your child doesn't have to be on Myspace to talk to a predator, they're online at game sites and anywhere else kids might go. Just keep an eye on his site, and if any of the kids he allows onto his space post something objectionable, have him delete that person as a friend.
2007-03-14 13:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I just gave a speech on this...had to do alot of research. This is what I came up with...
First off, legally, he needs to be 14. But they all lie. That's half the problem with online predators gaining access to children. Anyone under 18 is to have a private profile, but noone wants one, so they make themselves older. The second issue I had was that anyone with a myspace account can see everyone that your son has as a friend. It allows predators to see the network to alot of children. Not only that, but bullying on these websites is getting pretty bad too.
Having said that...I think my sister is doing it right. She has her account specifically for checking on her daughters. They know their mom looks at their pages and she also has their passwords to keep tabs on conversations. My sister is also aware that alot of kids set up secret ones that their parents don't know about, so she always checks the history and stuff on the computer. Lets face it, children will always try to circumvent the parenting system. It is our duty to be one step ahead! At this point, only you can make the decision for your family. At least if you tell him yes under these conditions, you'll keep the upper-hand for awhile...
2007-03-14 12:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Silver B 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
its a page that is free that they can decorate to express themselves. It has privavcy settings and because you can put your pictures on teh page there are settings available to keep it private. only accessible to those your son adds. freinds from school probably all have pages. they talk back and forth and comment on eachothers pages or post what they did that day. its really funny. but im sure can be dangerous if not kept safe. mostly young people on there and advertisements. a lot of independant advertising. you can check it out any time for free. myspace.com
2007-03-15 00:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 12 years old!! There is no "need" for him to be using the internet to go on Myspace. you should check it out for yourself when he is not around so you can see exactly what kind material is on there. A kid should be spending his free time doing creative things instead of plopped in front of the computer. My parents used to tell us kids that as long as they paid for the cable, phone, computer, etc, then we had to live by their rules. You are his mom and he's only 12 - you are in charge, and you lay down the rules. And do you really want him coming home from school everyday thinking only about checking his myspace page?
2007-03-14 12:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Luckyprincess 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Myspace is fun if used properly. It's a good way to keep up with people. They can decorate it and put a song on it, and pictures, and let people know what is going on with them lately. I have one and I check it everyday.
But absolutely keep an eye on it. I have seen some that it is obvious that those kids have parents who are completely unaware of what their kids are doing on the internet, or are aware and should have their children removed from the home.
I say go ahead and let him start and account. It can be fun for him. If you don't, then he is probably going to set one up on someone else's computer. This way you can check it periodically and see what is putting up.
If you would like I can email you the url to my page, and get a bit of an idea what it is really about.
2007-03-14 12:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Des-n-Jes 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Go to myspace and set up an account and see for yourself before you make any judgements. You can look up others profiles, so go try to find some people you knew in high school and see what they have on there. That will give you a better idea of what is going on.
And if he wants his own account, make sure you know his password and if at all possible create your own account and make him add you to his friends list so he can never block your access. There are settings on there that will allow him to do so otherwise.
And as with all web site access for children, make sure that the computer is in a public area of the house so he can't hide anything.
2007-03-14 12:19:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋