Hi, my names Jazmine. I'm 15 years old, and I am having a difficult time with this guy i have met last year, about 6 months ago. The day we met was great, he introduced himself, shook my hand, gave me his name, and set up a date to hang out :). We hung out and he let me know he was 20... :-/ BUMMER... But I asked my friends about this and they said they saw nothing wrong with it. Plus i really liked this guy. After a while of talking i really connected with him. Until suddenly we stopped talking. He wouldn't return my text messages after a while. So i forgot about him. But then a few weeks later he invites me to his house. Then i go n we talk and then when i get to my house he brings up the "sex" subject. We have been talking lately, ever since he'll call me every 3 weeks or so. Isn't this wierd?im getting the feeling he's trying to use me for sex? He called me today after a few weeks of not talking to see how i was. Is he just trying to have sex? i like him but i don't kno what to do
2007-03-14 12:13:06 · 21 answers · asked by colorfulgarden 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is talking to you about sex then he wants it.
2007-03-14 12:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately hun, he probably is using you for sex, I had a guy friend who was 21 and he was "dating" a 15 year old, but he wasn't really dating her he was only using her for sex, he would always have her over on weekends and at night, during parties, however he only ever did things for her to keep her tagging along for the ride and then when he found someone he liked more he dumped the 15 year old and started having a relationship with the girl he met that was only a year younger than he was. You see men like younger women, but usually that much of a difference is strictly a sexual lust for the girl, In their 20's guys usually only actually have a relationship with someone close in age. I mean you may not realize it now but there is a HUGE difference in 15 and 20 year old lifestyles. This is not a reflection on your maturity in anyway so don't confuse it. It's just that you are talking about two very different worlds, views ways of life. Hope that helps.
2007-03-14 12:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by cheesussinclair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 20. About the same as you guys, and now we are engaged (at ages 20 and 24). 5 years is not that bad of an age difference. HOWEVER, based on what you have said, he may just be using you for sex, assuming you're young and therefore, easy. He shouldn't have brought it up if you two are not dating, so I'm a little suspicious of this guy. He sounds like bad news. If I were you, the next time he brings up the sex issue, tell him you will only have sex with someone you are dating and in love with. After a few months of dating my now fiance brought it up with me. I told him I wasn't ready and luckily he respected it and never brought it up again. If you REALLY like the guy, I would do that. Start dating him and see how his personality is and if he respects your wishes. Be prepared to possibly getting your heart broken though, because it is very suspicious that he only wants sex. And don't give into his 'nice act'. He could do that for a few months just to get you in the sack. Wait until you love him and you honestly feel he loves you back. I don't want you to get hurt or used. Good luck, I hope I helped!
2007-03-14 12:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by llerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it sounds like ur right on the money...I have dated older guys and I'm 15 my last bf was 22...if he's taking so much time to call you again its prolly bc he's trying to get into a bunch of other girls pants I hope ur wrong though and that he is just a really busy guy well I hope I helped a lil bit...
2007-03-14 12:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by KaKes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If dude is 20 then walk away plus I pretty sure that your a nice girl and all but i'ma tell u what i know.don't get involved with someone who jus wants sex cuz they can jus walk straight out of your life right after it takes place & Make sure that you really know them first be4 doing any thing and also don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you dont't want to do.
2007-03-14 12:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by daphne_lln 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get the feeling he just wants you for sex then either try and back off or just state to him that sex isnt on the agenda yet. If he is a down to earth guy he'll wait till your ready or whatever.
2007-03-14 12:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by sam w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. You are absolutely right. He wants you for sex. You are 15 and a minor, he is 20- a grown man. Date boys your own age. Stay away from this guy.
2007-03-14 12:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is he just trying to have sex, but i think he is planning to hurt you in the future. he knows how you feel about him so he is using that to make you confused. then he will invite you to his house and probably rape you. no offense but something is very wrong with your friends. everything is wrong with this. he could go to jail for what he is doing. its called statutory rape. plus its crazy to have relations like that with an adult and your a teen. get away from him.
2007-03-14 12:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Riddles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who calls you only every few weeks is not seriously interested in you as a person. Ditch the guy! The intuition you have stated is good. Trust your intution.
2007-03-14 12:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him, than having sex with him would be natural, and beautiful, it's special to find a person with whom you have a deep connection with it's really is a given as long as first time would be with someone that you actualy dig. Why not?
2007-03-14 12:19:02 · answer #11 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋